Will you be able to settle or will you end up in divorce court? The only reason divorcing couples end up in divorce court is because one or the other refuses to negotiate, mediate or be flexible and come to an agreement with the other.
Ninety-five percent of all divorces are settled outside court. That is an encouraging statistic, but it needs to be known that the other 5% are the ones that keep the Family Court System working over time.
It is that 5% that tend to go back to court repeatedly. At times over frivolous issues that could be solved if one of the parties would make the choice to respond to the situation in a rational manner. It has been my experience when working with clients that the underlying issue with people who are continually going back to court is the need to get even with an ex-spouse.
There is either the spouse who refuses to follow through on an agreement in an attempt to get back at their ex-spouse or the spouse who withholds child visitation or child support in an attempt to get back at an ex-spouse. They use the Family Court System to keep from having to deal with each other and to keep from having to accept responsibility for the role they play in the ongoing conflict with their ex-spouse. It is toxic behavior that damages all involved including the one engaging in the behavior.
In other words, they keep a legal system backlogged because they have emotional issues that need to be dealt with. So, here is some advice from me, if your ex pushes your buttons emotionally and you want to get back at her/him by going to court, get thee to a therapist’s office, not an attorney’s office.
Karin Huffer, a marriage and family counselor in Las Vegas has identified a new disorder for a nation already reeling from chronic fatigue syndrome, Internet addiction disorder and other new-age afflictions.
It's called “legal abuse syndrome”, and it can strike crime victims, litigants, attorneys, and anyone who has dealt with the Family Court System. According to Dr. Huffer, “legal abuse syndrome (LAS) is a form of post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). It is a psychic injury, not a mental illness. It is a personal injury that develops in individuals assaulted by ethical violations, legal abuses, betrayals, and fraud. Abuse of power and authority and a profound lack of accountability in our courts have become rampant.”
Using the Family Court System to abuse an ex only promotes more conflict. If you are of the belief that going back to court or engaging in behavior that defies a divorce court order you are engaging in legal abuse. A therapist can teach you skills needed to resolve conflict in a healthier manner, skills that will save you not only emotional stress but all the money you give a divorce attorney every time you are angry with your ex.
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Concerned parents were elated this week when a much awaited segue for them to speak came forward as an invitation from the federal government, asking for clarifications on identified problems with child human rights in court, family rights in court and the lack of a uniform structure to respond to child sex abuse investigations, child abuse investigations and placement of children with a parent who is not known to them, has committed crimes against the other parent or is convicted of crimes that put the child at risk in their care.
Following a march on Washington DC and a Congressional Briefing this Summer members of Congress heard and were concerned about the severity and frequency with which child custody issues are mishandled, to the point of injury to the child or protesting parent.
Some cases are so problematic, as with the classic case illustrated in the October 2012 Documentary of Holly Collins, called "No Way Out But One", that the parent is forced to flee the situation, due to deafness in authorities, investigators, systems system law and policy, court law and policy, and court systems. Succinctly, the definition of being run into the ground by such system based problems is called "Systems Induced Trauma." Beyond victimization in a specific social or family situation, the family, one or all members are further agitated, abused or traumatized by the applied services and policies of systems that interlock without oversight, basically trapping the persons perpetuating a complaint without safety and resolutions.
The US Department of Justice is ready now to consider cases of chaos caused by State child and family courts. USDOJ is calling for child custody outlines in a format. The purpose of providing the outline is for the writer to simply and systematically give structured information regarding the problem case in question.
The US Department of Justice wants timelines of these outrageous cases.
Just complete and send your case in this format to
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by January 15, 2014 so she can provide them to the DOJ. The USDOJ invitation was issued to therepresenting group at the Summer March and Congressional Briefing :
The California Protective Parents Association.
Format for the Letter to the USDOJ
Who you are:
1. Contact information:
2. Background:
3. Education:
4. Former employment:
5. Criminal record (arrests and convictions):
Who your former partner/husband is:
1. Background:
2. Education:
3. Former employment:
4. Criminal record (arrests and convictions):
1. Contact information:
2. Background:
3. Education:
4. Former employment:
5. Criminal record (arrests and convictions):
Who your former partner/husband is:
1. Background:
2. Education:
3. Former employment:
4. Criminal record (arrests and convictions):
Reports of physical or sexual assault/battery and/or incest:
Law enforcement (give name of office and address):
Date, Name and title of officer, Outcome of investigation and report:
Date, Name and title of officer, Outcome of investigation and report:
Child Protective Services (give name of office and address):
Date, Name and title of worker, Outcome (including not reporting to criminal authorities to investigate):
Date, Name and title of worker, Outcome (including not reporting to criminal authorities to investigate):
Court personnel (give title and address):
Date, Name and title of professional, Outcome(including not reporting to criminal authorities to investigate):
Date, Name and title of professional, Outcome(including not reporting to criminal authorities to investigate):
Other government entities:
Date, Name and title of professional, Outcome (including not reporting to criminal authorities to investigate):
Date, Name and title of professional, Outcome (including not reporting to criminal authorities to investigate):
Intimidation against you that deterred you from reporting:
1. Who intimidated you:
2. How were you intimidated:
Gag orders:
1. Who gave you a gag order (name, title, date, place):
2. Rationale given for gag order to not talk about these recurring crimes of incest and assault and battery.
Removal of child(ren) from you after you reported criminal physical or sexual assault/battery and/or incest:
1. Name and title of person(s) recommending your children be removed from you
2. Date of recommendation and where recommendation was filed:
3. Name and title of person ordering your children removed from you:
4. Date of order and where order was filed:
Supervised visitation:
1. Name and title of person recommending you be placed on supervised visits
2. Reason given for recommendation:
3. Name and title of person who ordered you to supervised visits:
4. Date and place order was made:
5. Name of specific visitation center you were ordered to attend:
6. Amount of fees:
7. Dates and times you were ordered to attend:
8. If you were not ordered to a specific visitation center, name of visitation center you chose:
9. Was this center paid by the county:
Motions you filed for relief:
1. Date and place filed:
2. Who filed the motion:
3. What lawyers were involved:
4. Outcome of the motion:
1. Who intimidated you:
2. How were you intimidated:
Gag orders:
1. Who gave you a gag order (name, title, date, place):
2. Rationale given for gag order to not talk about these recurring crimes of incest and assault and battery.
Removal of child(ren) from you after you reported criminal physical or sexual assault/battery and/or incest:
1. Name and title of person(s) recommending your children be removed from you
2. Date of recommendation and where recommendation was filed:
3. Name and title of person ordering your children removed from you:
4. Date of order and where order was filed:
Supervised visitation:
1. Name and title of person recommending you be placed on supervised visits
2. Reason given for recommendation:
3. Name and title of person who ordered you to supervised visits:
4. Date and place order was made:
5. Name of specific visitation center you were ordered to attend:
6. Amount of fees:
7. Dates and times you were ordered to attend:
8. If you were not ordered to a specific visitation center, name of visitation center you chose:
9. Was this center paid by the county:
Motions you filed for relief:
1. Date and place filed:
2. Who filed the motion:
3. What lawyers were involved:
4. Outcome of the motion:
At the end of the time line, please provide a note,
"Supporting Evidence is being compiled in Exhibits."
Parents in and out of cps courts and family/divorce courts face a hamsterwheel of demands, which beyond the direct trauma to the family, often exhaust financial and emotional resources, cost jobs and personal assets. Most everyone knows at least ONE case like this one. Please pass this article along to others who may be affected.
Also, subscribe to Diana Winslow on examiner.com, OKC. Winslow, a 25 year provider of clinical mental health and addictions writes and advocates regularly for better care of her own family members and the community at large. Diana has planned professional retirement in December 2013 and seeks supports to continue work such as this and other issues that affect the quality of life for children and families. Other articles such as this, explain struggles here that may match struggles or solutions in your community.
There is only one business week remaining for the US DOJ call for outrageous child custody examples, given the timeline identified to the California Protective Parents Association's notice, per CPPA.
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This group of mothers marched on Washington, DC this fall, during a time that happened to coincide with the Federal sequester.
These mother's voices were determined, and the pre-planned Congressional Briefing did take place. The result of this combined effort was a call for what the CPPA identified to be the USDOJ asking to see case examples of outrageous child custody processes and outcomes.
It is not clear if there are perimeters on these cases.
The most commonly asked questions are:
Q: Who can submit
A: Anyone who has a case that has been heard within United States Courts regarding child custody?
Q: This group was started by Mothers, can Father's send materials too?
A: The group invites any concerned caregiver to post their case information using the format in the article. Lots of people act as parents.
Q: I would rather send my information straight to the USDOJ.
A: You are welcome to make any determination you wish regarding whether and to whom you wish to send your materials.
Apparent the CPPA group has a path forged already for these cases, and now is the time to send materials. The CPPA includes a set audience, who made a specific invitation.
Q: What can we expect as an outcome from sending this information?
A: To date, there has been no previous call for specific information like this. The question remains as to whether or not the mere introduction of the problem WITH examples will cause help to come forward or be included in current VAWA actions, which currently it is not.
The other question would be if sending the materials would allow the families help authorities "fingerprint" the processes that are allowing, enabling or perpetuating chaos, problems and death in these situations. The profile of the problem is missing, as is any discussion of exact problems and names of players. This will provide USDOJ with both.
USDOJ is looking at issues of risk, abuse and child human rights in particular. The other aspect is how abusive marital relationships or post divorce adult problems feed into problems like this.
Other information will be provided as it becomes available and watching the CPPA FB page is probably a good opportunity for care.
US Congress is back in session in Washington, DC and so it will be interesting to see how or if this comes forward as part of Spring 2014 Congressional Discussions, investigations, policy or law.
LK at Legally Kidnapped - Arizona Governor Jan Brewer signs order abolishing state's CPS agency During her State of the State address, Governor Jan Brewer announced that she has abolished the state's Child Protective Services department and has replaced it with a new division. - Gov. Jan Brewer abolishes child welfare agency, says she's had it with secrecy and excuses
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“Justice is a part of the human makeup. And if you deprive a person of Justice on a continuous basis, it’s really an attack (and not to get religious or anything) but it’s an attack on the human soul. We have, as societies, evolved ideas of Justice and we have done that because human nature needs Justice and it needs resolution. And if you deprive somebody of that long enough they’re going to have reactions…” ~ Juli T. Star-Alexander – Executive Director, Redress, Inc.
ReplyDeleteRedress, Inc. 501c3 nonprofit corporation, created to combat corruption. Our purpose is to provide real assistance and solutions for citizens suffering from injustices. We operate as a formal business, with a Board of Directors guiding us. We take the following actions to seek redress: Competently organize as citizens working for the enforcement of our legal rights. Form a coalition so large and so effective that the authorities can no longer ignore us. We support and align with other civil rights groups and get our collective voices heard. Work to pass laws that benefit us and give us the means to fight against corruption, as is our legal right, and we work to repeal laws that are in violation of our legal rights. Become proactive in the election process, by screening of political candidates. As individuals, we support those who are striving to achieve excellence, and show how to remove from office those who have failed to get the job done. Make our presence known through every legal means. We monitor our courts and judges. We petition our government representatives for the assistance they are bound to provide us. We publicize our cases and demand redress. Create a flow of income that enables us to fight back in court, and to assist our members impoverished by the abuses inflicted on us. Create the means to relieve the stresses on us, as we share information and support each other. We become legal advocates for each other; we become an emotional support network for each other; we problem solve for individuals on a group basis! Educate our judges, lawyers, court personnel, law enforcement personnel and elected leaders about our rights as citizens! Actively work to eliminate incompetence, bias/prejudice, special relationships and corruption at all levels of government! Work actively with all media sources, to shed light on our efforts. It is reasonable to expect that if the authorities know we are watching and documenting, that their behaviors will improve. IT'S A HUGE TASK! Accountability will not happen overnight. But we believe that through supporting each other, we support ourselves. This results in a voice for justice and redress that cannot be ignored. Please become familiar with our web site, and feel free to call. We need each other - help us to help you! Although we are beginning operations in Nevada, we intend to extend into each state in a competent fashion. We are NOT attorneys, unless individual attorneys join us as members. We are simply people helping people. For those interested, we do not engage in the practice of law. You might be interested in this article Unauthorized Practice of Law on the Net. Call Redress, Inc. at 702.597.2982 or e-mail us at Redress@redressinc.com. WORKING TOGETHER TO ATTAIN FAIRNESS
I read some of these posts with great distress.
ReplyDeleteNationwide, federal statutes have preempted state family law so we are all one country of parents following the beat of a central federal policy. We are having our “mindset” changed.
This policy, in order to survive 10th Amendment challenge, could only be implemented with federal dollars paid to the states for “administration” of federal laws. So your local court calculates, orders and venerates each order of support (CSSA), each forced adoption (ASFA), each child protective case (CAPTA) and all the variations thereof.
In other words, the federal government had so much faith and trust in the state judiciary, they allowed them to write their own blank check for imposition of federal family policy upon you and me. They even gave them immunity against suit under §1983 civil rights statutes. This scheme is in effect across the United States today.
How this was actually implemented on the ground was a horror. Suddenly, appellate division psychologists were being assigned to ordinary divorces in order to find a parent dysfunctional for visitation and ordered by the court into therapeutic visitation and treatment. Attorneys for children were being assigned in all family cases. Neither the psychologists nor these attorneys had any knowledge of families and children. They were merely working for a living. We were their meal ticket.
Some of us attorneys fight this Nazi apparatus vigorously so to lump all lawyers into the “bad guy” spotlight is totally unfair.
So wake up. You didn’t lose your kid because of your ex’s lawyer. You lost your kid because there was a profit in it for the state as ordered by the judge with white collar professionals provided by your appellate divisions. Your appellate division is engaged in the commercial delivery of mental health services, precluding privately retained experts and punishing your private attorneys in order for them to turn coat against you and get you to accept your fate.
That’s what happened to you. Nothing else.
anyone can follow my active bar complaint, all the documents are posted on my website here: http://yousue.org/bar-complaint-of-robert-w-bauer/ Keep up the good work. Take care,
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