Parental Alienation Awareness Day & Bubbles of Love Day
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Only 10 days or so to go to the 10th Annual Parental Alienation Awareness Day and 6th Annual Bubbles of Love Day! There are many events planned throughout the world on this day. You can view most of them here at this link and for Bubbles of Love Day events, this link.
If you are organizing an event, please go to this link to list your event alongside the rest of the world. No event is too small, and every event counts.
Remember the goal of PAAD/BOLD is to raise awareness about the damages caused to children by Parental Alienation. Be sure to have a brochure or handout ready to give out to people when you invite them to join in raising some bubbles, or when they come and talk to you. You can find the PAAO brochure at this link or you can make your own.
Thank you to everyone who participates on this day. A friendly reminder to send in 4-8 photos of your event for the annual video collage. Ideally please name your photos (your city)(Yourstate)(year).jpg or .png. For example OakvilleON2016.jpg or HustonTexas2016.jpg to help with organization.
Great News From Our Friends In Finland
The manual is maintained by the National Institute for Health and Welfare and is used by child protection officials and has an essentially official status.
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PAAD/BOLD on Dad's Divorce
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Type Title Here Go to this link view it. A big thank you to Shawn Garrison of Dad's Divorce for asking us for an interview to promote the day.  | |
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Feature Film Needing Your Support
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Another feature film starring Academy & Emmy Award nominee actors focusing on the subject of Parental Alienation needs your help.
This independent film called "The Decree" is intended to educate the public about Parental Alienation. The story is told through the eyes of the affected children.
PANDA ABUZZ - GET YOURS FOR BUBBLES OF LOVE DAYSoft and cuddly Panda Abuzz has the following written on his hands: 'Mom Loves Me' on one hand, and 'Dad Loves Me' on the other.
Available in Bulk this year at 10 bears for $50 or 20 for $90 or 30 for $120.
 NOTICEPlease be aware that there is another organization based in the US that has a similar logo and name to ours (Parental Alienation Awareness Organization). PAAO has no affiliations or links to this organization. Any donations, purchases, memberships or contacts made through sources other than paawareness.org and it's newsletter will not be available to PAAO. We apologize for the mass confusion this other organization appears to be causing out there. We are doing our best to reason with them, in the meantime, please be aware that all PAAO communications will come from the paawareness.org domain ONLY. Please also note PAAO does not have any chapters. We are about children, education and awareness. We do not have support groups or chapters. If you have any questions or concerns, please contact us atinfo@paawareness.org Sincerely, PAAO Board of Directors |
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On February 28th, 2016, PAAO got word from Catalin Bogdan of arpcc.ro that on February 1st the Institute of Forensic Psychology* recognized Parental Alienation, and Eleven days later, on 12.02.2016 the College of the Psychologists** also recognized the alienation. Their recognition was published on 25.02.2016 in the Official Gazette of Romania (which is where Laws needs to be published in order to enter into effect).
This opens the gates for further study into the subject, more forensic evaluations from judges before making decisions, and moving towards positive legislative change!
Congratulations to our friends in Romania at such tremendous forward movement. It inspires us to keep pushing forward for our children and future generations.
To read more about it, go to https://goo.gl/PdKWVT (translated) or http://www.arpcc.ro/alienare
Note: * The Institute of Forensic Psychology has about 300 members
** The College of the Psychologists is the one and only state acknowledged professional association, hosting all psychologists (31,740 of them!) who are allowed to practice psychology in Romania
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NEW HOLLYWOOD MOVIE COMING SOON
Hollywood is about to start shooting a movie about parental alienation, called SHADOW IN THE RAIN.
Tommy Bull is the co-director and will play the role of Frank. Tommy Bull was voted the best director in the 6 year TV series MIAMI VICE, and he also was a lead actor in that show.
Tommy Bull has now directed 30 feature movies and 40 television shows.
Joining him is lead actress Lori Singer who starred in the $80 million movie FOOTLOOSE, after beating out Madonna for that part. Tommy Bull won the Golden Halo Award and best actor and director for SHADOW OF THE DRAGON.
SHADOW IN THE RAIN is based based on the true story of co-director Scott Robertson's life. https://www.facebook.com/Shadowintherainmovie/?fref=ts
Be sure to check out their facebook page and watch for the movie.
Child Custody and Divorce Coach Catherine MacWillie discussing Skype Calls with Children during and after divorce at presentation at International Support Network for Alienated Families, ISNAF Long Beach, California 2013.
CUSTODY CALCULATIONS NEW INTERNET SERVICE IS ALMOST HERE!
Overwhelmed, frustrated, financially drained and exhausted. Emotions can last long after the divorce as custody issues go on year after year after year. For some, long after the children are grown and living on their own as adults.
As calls for reform gain momentum, in cities, states and countries around the globe; as organizations and pioneers look for solutions; as social media connects individuals who reach out for information, referrals, books, articles and other resources; a new internet service is preparing to launch after 10 years of research by CEO Catherine MacWillie. Services are so unique that there is a patent pending on the process.
Custody Calculations, CEO, Catherine MacWillie has 32 years of experience dealing with Family Law. Nearly, 24 years as a retired LAPD officer, responding to radio calls related to divorce and custody issues; child abuse, domestic violence, homicide, abduction, suicide, violation of court orders, violation of restraining orders, stalking and more.
The last 8 years as a Child Custody and Divorce Coach where she worked with clients on a one on one basis. The company has clients all across the US and internationally. Services are provided by phone, fax, emails, text messages etc. Workshops, webinars, media interviews, etc are also provided to educate families and others dealing with custody and divorce issues and to comment on breaking stories related to crime, custody and divorce.
The company always intended to provide services through the internet. More information, more comprehensive to more families, 24 hours a day, 365 days a year. For pennies on the dollar. Certainly far less money than what an attorney would charge to provide the same information or a Divorce Coach.
After a first round of private funding and several months in production is nearly ready to launch. Only a few more weeks. Imagine using phrases in your divorce and custody no matter where you are in the process like “privacy and dignity.” A first for Family Law.
The change was as simple as dividing the court order into three stand alone court order documents; property, financial and custody. Using our new services when dealing with custody issues, parents will simply show police, school officials the custody order. Not the financial court order and not the property court order.
No longer will various agencies read your private information when dealing with custody issues such as how much was owed in credit cards, how much is paid for child support, spousal support, if the family fought over the family dog etc. Information that can act to bias police and school administrators.
The same with financials. The bank doesn’t need to know what your custody percentage is or your schedule. Which can act to bias financial personnel too. When parents are done dealing with the property order or the financial court order, they simply file it away. Pull out the court orders only when you need to when you need them.
Frustrated and unable to keep straight the 10 – 12 court orders dealing with your case? Which sections on which court orders are valid and which are not. With our new services, keep the number of court orders to three. With only valid sections applicable on each of the three orders, property, custody, financials.
When you hand the court order to law enforcement officers, only valid sections will appear on each court order eliminating confusion and paving the way for law enforcement to once again enforcing court orders. Especially with the addition of specific dates of custody in the court order as opposed to the current process which is often confusing and frustrating for everyone. There is more. Much more. Services will be available for use internationally with some modifications. Later the system will adjust for this issue but not on initial launch.
Please note; The company just recently registered as a Public Benefits Corporation. A special category for companies addressing social issues with a commitment to act morally and ethically as opposed to being profit driven exclusively.
To secure special prototype pricing and obtain additional information go toCustodyCalculations.com. Enter your email address. Limited number of openings for prototype pricing. For less than the price of one hour with an attorney you can get all of this and more.
Dr. Kathleen Reay Webinar January 24.
Is traditional therapy the right choice?
Top 10 Reasons Why Traditional Therapeutic Approaches Won't Work in Severe Alienation Cases: An Intro to the Family Reflections Reunification Program
Link to my website
Link to my website
If you have any question as to what kinds of therapy are appropriate in severe cases of alienation, join Dr. Reay as she presents an authoritative perspective from many years of successfully reuniting parents and their children.
Register here. $10 (plus service charge)
Register here. $10 (plus service charge)
PASG (the Parental Alienation Study Group) newsletter.
Go to the most recent PASG Newsletter and Read about the most recent PA legislation, the controversy that won't quit in German, and the unfortunate passing of E. James Anthony, M.D Child and Adolescent Psychiatrist.
Spring conference - AFCC
AFCC 's 52nd Annual Conference, Children in the Court System: Different Doors, Different Responses, Different Outcomes, will be held May 27-30, 2015,
Conference information is here.
Brian Ludmer is one of our great natural resources. He has spoken throughout North America, He has advised and represented men, women and their troubled children in Family Law disputes for many years. Along with Dr. Amy Baker and Michael Bone he is working a new PA resource, "The high conflict custody survival guide". This webinar will highlight what you can do to represent your alienation case, and in particular how the DSM 5 has enhanced the odds for success.
The webinar told participants about the definition used the team working on including PA in the DSM, and then Dr. Bernet took us through the new sections of the DSM which refer to alienating behaviours and results.
Here’s an important decision after a second 5 week trial for the same family (both decisions are linked below). So many of these cases go on for years. We need to recognize this behaviour at the earliest stages and intervene immediately – such PA perpetrators are not self-aware and don’t change, even when given chance after chance.
The Law, and DSM 5 - Brian Ludmer
Webinar - July 28, 8pm Eastern time
Brian Ludmer is one of our great natural resources. He has spoken throughout North America, He has advised and represented men, women and their troubled children in Family Law disputes for many years. Along with Dr. Amy Baker and Michael Bone he is working a new PA resource, "The high conflict custody survival guide". This webinar will highlight what you can do to represent your alienation case, and in particular how the DSM 5 has enhanced the odds for success.
To register for a $10 fee, and receive the webinar login instructions on the day of the webinar, Click here
Bringing Awareness to the harmful acts of PA, one mile at a time
Imagine that you were a 23 year old parent, with a child that loves giraffe's and the color orange and you had a tremendous need to raise that child in a healthy way, but your child was being alienated, what would you do?
ROB HARPER has let us know what he IS doing!
Rob and his long time friend Nicolas Driscoll are bicycling from Virginia to California raising awareness of PA so he can make a difference to his child and children everywhere.
Follow his journey from coast to coast and be inspired by this heroic young man's campaign.
Last months Webinar recording, $12
Dr. Bill Bernet
The webinar told participants about the definition used the team working on including PA in the DSM, and then Dr. Bernet took us through the new sections of the DSM which refer to alienating behaviours and results.
The webinar was recorded in it's entirety and is available for downloading for a small of $12. To get the recording click here.
An important Court Case
Here’s an important decision after a second 5 week trial for the same family (both decisions are linked below). So many of these cases go on for years. We need to recognize this behaviour at the earliest stages and intervene immediately – such PA perpetrators are not self-aware and don’t change, even when given chance after chance.
Some important aspects of this case:
1. Emphasis on positive covenants to promote the other parent, not just the usual negative covenants that are difficult to prove without inferences or tape recording
2. Recognition that favoured parents have to care about the children’s behaviour towards the targeted parent and do something about it
3. Tolerance for disrespect and cruelty towards the targeted parent is finally “called-out” using the concept “you promote that which you permit”.
4. Clear recognition that therapy won’t work with the children still in the orbit of the favoured parent and toxic extended family environment
5. Clear recognition of alienated children and children suffering from cognitive distortions as being at risk of emotional harm within the meaning of child protection legislation
and I have seen first-hand the kind of unfairness that you are complaining about and I know that you are making a very legitimate point.
Every time I sit and observe for even an hour or so in family court, I come out wondering what foreign country have I wandered into. Fathers are on the bad end of some peculiar social forces and norms at this point in our culture and even understanding that it is cultural and social — and not personal — does not make it more bearable for those who are affected. I am not going to cheerlead, or defend the system. It’s wrong and it goes on and on and on.
So, what to do?
Join forces. There is an active “Fathers’ Equal Rights” community that has only started to explore its potential for political and social influence.
One voice is a rant; many voices is public policy. All judges are ultimately accountable to the public, even those that forget that is so.
Here is contact info for local state advocates in your area, support and work with them for change.
You can begin by attending your the TFRM Rally this June 17th at your State Capitol.
There simply isn’t any other or better alternative.
Find the link to your local state rally below.
You can also go to the address printed on the meme below to see if any of our current open volunteer positions interest you.
Sincerely,
Kenneth Goins
Kenneth Goins
FATHERS.COM
WHY IS THIS A CRITICAL ISSUE?
HOW DID CHILDREN OF DIVORCE GET STUCK WITH THE VISITATION PLAN THAT AFFORDS THEM ACCESS TO THEIR NON-RESIDENTIAL PARENT ONLY ONE NIGHT DURING THE WEEK AND EVERY OTHER WEEK-END?
ReplyDeleteWhat is the research that supports such a schedule? Where is the data that confirms that such a plan is in the best interest of the child?
Well, reader, you can spend your time from now until eternity researching the literature, and YOU WILL NOT DISCOVER ANY SUPPORTING DATA for the typical visitation arrangement with the non-residential parent! The reality is that this arrangement is based solely on custom. And just like the short story, "The Lottery," in which the prizewinner is stoned to death, the message is that deeds and judgments are frequently arrived at based on nothing more than habit, fantasy, prejudice, and yes, on "junk science."
This family therapist upholds the importance of both parents playing an active and substantial role in their children's lives----especially in situations when the parents are apart. In order to support the goal for each parent to provide a meaningfully and considerable involvement in the lives of their children, I affirm that the resolution to custody requires an arrangement for joint legal custody and physical custody that maximizes the time with the non-residential----with the optimal arrangement being 50-50, whenever practical. It is my professional opinion that the customary visitation arrangement for non-residential parents to visit every other weekend and one night during the week is not sufficient to maintain a consequential relationship with their children. Although I have heard matrimonial attorneys, children's attorneys, and judges assert that the child needs the consistency of the same residence, I deem this assumption to be nonsense. I cannot be convinced that the consistency with one's bed trumps consistency with a parent!
Should the reader question how such an arrangement can be judiciously implemented which maximizes the child's time---even in a 50-50 arrangement----with the non-residential parent, I direct the reader to the book, Mom's House, Dads House, by the Isolina Ricci, PhD.
Indeed, the research that we do have supports the serious consequences to children when the father, who is generally the non-residential parent, does not play a meaningful role in lives of his children. The book, Fatherneed, (2000) by Dr. Kyle Pruitt, summarizes the research at Yale University about the importance of fathers to their children. And another post on this page summarizes an extensive list of other research.
Children of divorce or separation of their parents previously had each parent 100% of the time and obviously cannot have the same arrangement subsequent to their parents' separation. But it makes no sense to this family therapist that the result of parental separation is that the child is accorded only 20% time with one parent and 80% with the other. What rational person could possibly justify this?
“Relationship Estrangement and Interference is a form of Domestic Violence using Psychological abuse.”
Delete~ Joan Kloth-Zanard of PAS Intervention.
www.pas-intervention.com
PAS Intervention stands for Parental Alienation Support and Intervention. It is an International Non-profit organization to End Child Abuse and Parental Alienation.
PRO SE RIGHTS:
ReplyDeleteBrotherhood of Trainmen v. Virginia ex rel. Virginia State Bar, 377 U.S. 1; v. Wainwright, 372 U.S. 335; Argersinger v. Hamlin, Sheriff 407 U.S. 425 ~ Litigants can be assisted by unlicensed laymen during judicial proceedings.
Conley v. Gibson, 355 U.S. 41 at 48 (1957) ~ "Following the simple guide of rule 8(f) that all pleadings shall be so construed as to do substantial justice"... "The federal rules reject the approach that pleading is a game of skill in which one misstep by counsel may be decisive to the outcome and accept the principle that the purpose of pleading is to facilitate a proper decision on the merits." The court also cited Rule 8(f) FRCP, which holds that all pleadings shall be construed to do substantial justice.
Davis v. Wechler, 263 U.S. 22, 24; Stromberb v. California, 283 U.S. 359; NAACP v. Alabama, 375 U.S. 449 ~ "The assertion of federal rights, when plainly and reasonably made, are not to be defeated under the name of local practice."
Elmore v. McCammon (1986) 640 F. Supp. 905 ~ "... the right to file a lawsuit pro se is one of the most important rights under the constitution and laws."
Federal Rules of Civil Procedures, Rule 17, 28 USCA "Next Friend" ~ A next friend is a person who represents someone who is unable to tend to his or her own interest.
Haines v. Kerner, 404 U.S. 519 (1972) ~ "Allegations such as those asserted by petitioner, however inartfully pleaded, are sufficient"... "which we hold to less stringent standards than formal pleadings drafted by lawyers."
Jenkins v. McKeithen, 395 U.S. 411, 421 (1959); Picking v. Pennsylvania R. Co., 151 Fed 2nd 240; Pucket v. Cox, 456 2nd 233 ~ Pro se pleadings are to be considered without regard to technicality; pro se litigants' pleadings are not to be held to the same high standards of perfection as lawyers.
Maty v. Grasselli Chemical Co., 303 U.S. 197 (1938) ~ "Pleadings are intended to serve as a means of arriving at fair and just settlements of controversies between litigants. They should not raise barriers which prevent the achievement of that end. Proper pleading is important, but its importance consists in its effectiveness as a means to accomplish the end of a just judgment."
NAACP v. Button, 371 U.S. 415); United Mineworkers of America v. Gibbs, 383 U.S. 715; and Johnson v. Avery, 89 S. Ct. 747 (1969) ~ Members of groups who are competent nonlawyers can assist other members of the group achieve the goals of the group in court without being charged with "unauthorized practice of law."
Picking v. Pennsylvania Railway, 151 F.2d. 240, Third Circuit Court of Appeals ~ The plaintiff's civil rights pleading was 150 pages and described by a federal judge as "inept". Nevertheless, it was held "Where a plaintiff pleads pro se in a suit for protection of civil rights, the Court should endeavor to construe Plaintiff's Pleadings without regard to technicalities."
Puckett v. Cox, 456 F. 2d 233 (1972) (6th Cir. USCA) ~ It was held that a pro se complaint requires a less stringent reading than one drafted by a lawyer per Justice Black in Conley v. Gibson (see case listed above, Pro Se Rights Section).
Roadway Express v. Pipe, 447 U.S. 752 at 757 (1982) ~ "Due to sloth, inattention or desire to seize tactical advantage, lawyers have long engaged in dilatory practices... the glacial pace of much litigation breeds frustration with the Federal Courts and ultimately, disrespect for the law."
Sherar v. Cullen, 481 F. 2d 946 (1973) ~ "There can be no sanction or penalty imposed upon one because of his exercise of Constitutional Rights."
Schware v. Board of Examiners, United State Reports 353 U.S. pages 238, 239. ~ "The practice of law cannot be licensed by any state/State."
Sims v. Aherns, 271 SW 720 (1925) ~ "The practice of law is an occupation of common right."