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Monday, February 01, 2016

Children in father-absent environments. WHY?

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Judges must do more to protect father-child relationships

Opinion

Over the past few decades, research has shown the importance of fathers to their children’s well-being. These studies show children in father-absent environments are almost four times more likely to  live in poverty, are more likely to use drugs and alcohol, have significantly lower educational attainment, and are more likely to be sexually active.




Civil Rights

Children in father-absent environments are also more likely to engage in juvenile delinquency, have higher risk of being victimized by crime including sexual assault and domestic violence, and are more than twice as likely to commit suicide.


Criminal Justice

Of course, kids do better with two parents actively involved in their lives. But,
many people still fail to understand the importance of fathers. According to research by Joan Berlin Kelly, 50% of mothers “see no value in the father’s continued contact with his children after a divorce.”
In light of this alarming statistic, it is perhaps not surprising that a study published by the American Journal of Orthopsychiatry found that “40 percent of mothers report that they had interfered with the noncustodial father’s visitation on at least one occasion, to punish their ex-spouse.”
A recent report by the Federal Administration for Children and Families describes a harmful phenomenon called “maternal gatekeeping,” in which mothers interfere with fathers’ access to their children. According to this report, “more than half of nonresident fathers offered accounts of gatekeeping behavior, ranging from refusing to grant physical access to making frequent last-minute schedule changes.
Gatekeeping also came in more indirect forms, such as refusal to communicate in person or by phone, withholding information from the father about the child, or berating the father.”
Motives for maternal gatekeeping vary. In some cases, mothers use children as a weapon and deny fathers access to their children as a way to punish them. In other cases, mothers use children for financial gain. According to the ACF report, “mothers would sometimes restrict access when a father failed to provide ‘extras’ over and above the required child support.”
It’s remarkable to me that Thompson cites the ACF report. It’s a fairly obscure work about which no one has commented in the mainstream press to my knowledge. I wrote three pieces on it and Thompson’s is the only other piece I know of. Good for her. She’s doing her homework.

Saturday, January 30, 2016

Lawyers Who Profit at the Expense of our Children.

The late Judge E. Spencer Walton of St. Joseph County, Indiana often remarked that one of the most important duties of an attorney opening a new file was also one of the least appreciated.
Guess which he was referring to?

A.  Keeping the client informed. 

B.  Treating the client as an equal

partner in the matter. 

C.  Reviewing the file regularly. 

D.  Closing the file. 

E.  Copying the file for the client

d. Closing the file.
(The actual answer - and 21% of responses)
Judge Walton’s admonition may actually stand in some considerable contrast to what the general ethic of the legal profession is: dedicated, zealous, and perhaps even endless advocacy.
But we think that at least in family cases he may be absolutely right.  Are families actually assisted by teams of lawyers and a judiciary remaining more or less permanently involved in their affairs?
It seems to us that the legal profession, not to mention members of the public wanting to make aggressive and far-reaching use of the legal profession, could take a lesson from Judge Walton.  And perhaps from the tendency of more progressive physicians to attempt to work with the human body rather than against the human body.
The “Extra Quote” this week speaks to this point.  Chief Justice Burger went to considerable lengths to try to put the brakes on the law’s tendency (sometimes even a well-intentioned one) to get involved in too much of people’s lives.  And then to stay too long.
At the very least, it seems to us that in family matters parents should be encouraged to do all they can, and use all the useful counseling, mediation, and other resources at their disposal, to reassume responsibility for their lives and the lives of their children.

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Tuesday, January 26, 2016

One cannot check out on their child


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3 Things to Consider About How Divorce Affects Children


Good parenting “requires loving the children more than one dislikes the spouse they are divorcing.”


Excerpt:

Bottom line: Parenthood and especially divorcing parenthood demands that an individual be mature, confident, and selfless. In essence, it requires an adult rather than a child walking around masquerading as an adult.

Read more at http://www.beliefnet.com/Love-Family/Parenting/Articles/3-Things-to-Consider-About-How-Divorce-Affects-Children.aspx?p=2#4JkuBtU3KcyYtzz5.99

Friday, January 22, 2016

Dear Media, Government, and Society - There is a Silent Crisis that Demands Actio

Parental Alienation: A Silent Crisis That Demands Action

Parental alienation is not a private dispute. It is a public crisis that affects children, families, and the very fabric of society. When one parent manipulates a child to reject the other, the damage is profound. It is emotional abuse disguised as custody conflict, and its consequences ripple far beyond the family home.

The Human Cost

Children subjected to alienation suffer trauma that can last a lifetime. They experience loyalty conflicts, guilt, and confusion. They are taught to mistrust, to reject part of their identity, and to believe that love from one parent is conditional. Research shows that alienated children are at higher risk for depression, anxiety, low self-esteem, and difficulty forming healthy relationships.

Parents, too, are devastated. Many are erased from their children’s lives despite being fit, loving, and responsible. They comply with court orders, attend mandated programs, and pay child support, yet still face barriers to meaningful contact. The result is broken families, financial ruin, and emotional despair.

The Role of the Courts

Family courts are meant to protect children’s best interests. Yet too often, they enable alienation through weak remedies and delayed action. Judges dismiss false allegations but fail to enforce parenting time. They impose “band-aid” solutions like supervised visitation, which only reinforce the alienating parent’s control.

Accountability is essential. Judges must be trained to recognize alienation as psychological abuse. They must act decisively, using remedies that work:

  • Financial sanctions against alienating parents.

  • Custody changes to restore balance and protect the child’s bond with both parents.

  • Therapeutic intervention to help children heal and rebuild trust.

Without strong measures, courts risk becoming complicit in the destruction of families.

A Call to the Media

The media has a responsibility to shine a light on this issue. Parental alienation is rarely discussed publicly, yet it affects thousands of families across the country. By telling these stories, journalists can expose the hidden harm and push society to confront it.

A Call to Government

Lawmakers must recognize parental alienation as a form of child abuse. Family laws must be reformed to make shared parenting the default, to prevent manipulation, and to hold accountable those who weaponize children in custody disputes. Government officials cannot remain indifferent while children are deprived of their fundamental right to love and be loved by both parents.

A Call to Society

Society must stop viewing parental alienation as “just a divorce issue.” It is a human rights issue. Every child deserves a relationship with both parents. Every parent deserves fairness. And every community suffers when families are torn apart by manipulation and judicial failure.

Conclusion

Parental alienation causes trauma. It destroys families. And it undermines the values of justice and equality we claim to uphold. Media, government, and society must act — not tomorrow, not someday, but now.

Children cannot wait. Parents cannot endure endless battles. The time has come to stand against parental alienation and demand a system that protects families instead of destroying them.



Operation Family Law~CPS Reform

 Letter Campaign

In all indications of the talk out of the legislative bodies, 2017 will be the year of reform of the social programs of Child Welfare Divisions. Although funded by the Federal Government, each State and county will have their own policies and procedures drafted around the new legislative actions in 2017. The new bills could be the means for some states to adopt a 'family friendly' policy of helping families to remain together, and some states will cling to their standard practice of seizing kids for federal dollars. The only way to end the incentivized profit gain off children is to end ASFAct. We encourage all writers to demand this end to ASFA. 

In the year of 2017, the group will decide how to restructure our efforts to change the current justice system of Family law/dissolution and custody. As family law in relation to child custody, child support, is a federal justice problem, our need to write legislative bodys will end our refocus will be on addressing the justice system and the avenues available to bring a change, whereas prior change to the Child welfare divisions focused on a social program and policy change and not a justice system change.

Monday, January 18, 2016

America's Fathering Crisis


On MLK Day, I find myself reflecting on my father-in-law’s story. I am also reminded that Dr. King’s famous “I have a dream” speech was about being a father. It was about envisioning the future he wanted for his children, and then working to make that dream a reality.


“I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin but by the content of their character,” he said.

We can all learn something from Dr. King, Dr. Little, and Championship Fathers across the globe …

More important than a man’s circumstances—his race, his socioeconomic status, his custodial or marital situation—is the way in which he handles his circumstances and envisions the future.
English: Dr. Martin Luther King giving his &qu...
English: Dr. Martin Luther King giving his "I Have a Dream" speech during the March on Washington in Washington, D.C., on 28 August 1963. Español: Dr. Martin Luther King dando su discurso "Yo tengo un sueño" durante la Marcha sobre Washington por el trabajo y la libertad en Washington, D.C., 28 de agosto de 1963. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)
Do you model self-control? Do you remain calm and rational, even when others are becoming bitter … perhaps even violent? Can you hold your head high because you know you are acting like the dignified man you want your children to see?
English: Attorney General Kennedy and Rev. Dr....
English: Attorney General Kennedy and Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., 22 June 1963, Washington, D.C. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Saturday, January 16, 2016

A Year Without My Daughter...here's to you Judge Valerie Manno-Schurr.



I never thought that i would ever believe there were real fathers that really love their children because my parent inflicted so much pain ,abuse that it crippled us mentally I found help in therapy 16 year's of hard core therapy and after it all who won me" i did not stay crippled , what I am trying to say is i admire the fight fathers put up for their children. please keep it going i believe in good fathers now , please continue to give the little angel by your side lucky stars and when she grows up she will sparkle and and she will say my dad gave me so much love and i am going give lots of to my children some day. God Bless you and your children.
Sincerely,



Do her mistakes qualify her for another six years on the bench? Or is it time that Miami-Dade voters look for someone who is more competent…Read More


Judge Manno-Schurr Reversed again for not knowing the law - United Auto Courts Reports

United Auto Courts Reports ~ Valerie Manno-Schurr has made a habit of being reversed in her first term as Miami-Dade circuit judge. The latest instance was on Feb. 29, when the Third District Court of Appeal determined that she erred in a dispute over a homeowner’s insurance claim. Judge Manno-Schurr has been reversed many times on cases taken to appeal. As of late 2011,…Read More

Intentional Infliction of Emotional Distress

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The first case to recognize a non-custodial parent’s cause of action based on the tort of…Read More

This means Family Court discrimination against parents and children who suffer from PTSD legal trauma!


Sanders: End Discrimination Against People with Disabilities -- Sen. Bernie Sanders called for an end to all forms of discrimination including against people who may have a disability.  THERESPECTABILITYREPORT.ORG

"Never give in. Never give in. Never, never, never, never in nothing, great or small, large or petty never give in, except to…Read More


Monday, January 11, 2016

The rights that children have to free and equal association with both fit parents...

...that should not be invaded by the State or infringed upon by another parent.

NO...STILL DON'T SEE THE PROBLEM? 

THINK THIS IS NOT TRUE?

WATCH THIS VIDEO ABOUT HOW FATHERS IN MIAMI-DADE COUNTY'S 11TH JUDICIAL CIRCUIT FAMILY COURT, IN FLORIDA,  HAVE TO "UNJUSTIFIABLY" PROVE "PARENTAL FITNESS"

The CEO of The Fatherhood Taskforce speaking before the Florida Supreme Court Committee on the Future of Florida's Courts.


How Divorced Parents and Children Lose Their Rights


Emery makes many good suggestions in his article called............ “How Divorced Parents Lost Their Rights” and has a good grasp on the process from a psychology perspective. We are, of course constitutional scholars and would like to offer a perspective that hopefully integrates and supports most but not all of what Emery says.

For instance Emery suggests that courts do not involve themselves with parenting disagreements between married parents because judges would make things a mess. They would of course  but that is NOT the legal reason that they stay out of it. The legal reason is that people have the right to make decisions free from government interference. These rights are called privacy rights. Parents have privacy rights to make decisions for their children and the State may not interfere unless the state can show a clear and present danger to the child from these decisions.

Why do family law courts treat married and divorced parents differently? Many people do not realize that parental rights do not depend on marriage and in fact cannot depend on marital status in any way. A hundred years ago this wasn’t so and our family law codes have not caught up with this concept. Up until the early 1970s some states still had bastardy laws on their books that tied the rights of parents and children to the marital status of the child’s parents. In a series of landmark decisions, the US Supreme Court stated very clearly that states may not create second-class parents or second-class children based on nothing more than the marital status of the child’s parents.

Family law has not caught up to this idea because of religious and cultural preconditioning. In other words our society builds into us a series of biases and prejudices against single and divorced parents that is so deep most people don’t even realize it is driving their behavior. Most people believe that it is completely legitimate to invade the privacy of single/divorced parents even where they believe that the privacy of married parents must be preserved. Constitutionally, this is a completely bankrupt idea. Unfortunately, judges, attorneys, and mental health professionals are almost universally so caught up in these biases they refuse to acknowledge their professional training and simply default to bigoted behaviors without even realizing that is what they are doing. (It’s easy to fall into following statistics to guide decisions. Individuals can choose to follow these as their guide. It is not how the law should be deciding individual rights.)

- See more at: http://www.fixfamilycourts.com/how-divorced-parents-and-children-lose-their-rights/#sthash.LeijUpEd.dpuf

Are you sick, tired, broke and frustrated with the difficulty of trying to get the courts to admit you have equal rights...
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When this Amendment is passed parents will not have to reference countless Supreme Court opinions, they will only have to say I have 28th Amendment rights to be a parent and no Divorce Court can ever deprive me of those rights so long as I am a fit parent.This book is intended to be a tool for citizen activists who want change to the system but who may struggle with all of the technical arguments. Now all you have to do to support change is hand this book to your politician of choice and say, “I want this, make it happen.””



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