Over 1,700 research studies conclude that men and women engage in partner aggression at similar rates. Yet some groups ignore the problem of mutual abuse, minimize female-initiated aggression, and claim that DV is an expression of patriarchal power.
“Groups that distort the truth are keeping us from ending the cycle of violence.” — S. Hutter,
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We, the undersigned, are writing in hopes of bringing to your attention a dire misjustice that is occuring in our state as well as many others across the US. Laws inacted to protect the victims of the vile crime of domestic violence are being misused by both citizens as well as law enforcement, and in this process innocent men's lives are being destroyed. In most states, the burden of proof is being thrown out and the simple word of the acuser is being taken without question, many times without the accused even being allowed to speak.
True victims of domestic violence, some of whose names you will find below, find this to be deplorable. Not only can a woman falsely accuse a man of domestic violence without fear of consequence, but the accused man has no voice against her. The accuser can be a mentally disturbed individual using such laws to exact her revenge against a man who simply does not want to be in a relationship anymore, and her word is automatically taken, even when no evidence is in place. The man in such cases is automatically arrested, injunctions are automatically set in place, and even if he is able to prove his innocence in court he has lost months of his life due to the fact that she cried wolf. Worse yet are the cases of these innocent men who are poor and have no means to hire private attorneys. Their public defenders assume they are guilty and therefore do only the bare necessities to be their legal voice.We are not in any way asking for a revocation of the laws that protect true victims of domestic violence.
Our wish is that these laws be revisited and indications made to to allow for criminal and civil prosecution when someone, whether male or female, has misused these laws in a vindictive and cunning way. We also would ask that law enforcement officers, public attorneys, and judges be forced to recognize the precept that the accused is innocent until proven guilty. Unfortunately, in the cases of domestic violence accusations, the opposite is true.
An example of this is that of a 20 year old Florida resident who made the bond that was set for him, only to be picked up the very next day without provocation. The accuser in this case simply told the court she was afraid. He had done nothing in terms of trying to contact her or see her, and was not without several witnesses the few short hours he was free. Something must be done to prevent those who would lie about being a victim of domestic violence from continuing to do so. If it is not, our prisons will be overrun with innocent men and our streets will be controlled by the women who sent them there.
In the Paternity Case for my (our) daughter that I filed almost 5 years ago exists "false allegations" of domestic violence against me. My daughter's mother was making her second attempt (with a lawyer) to make false allegations of domestic violence and obtain an injunction to derail the Paternity Suit I filed December 4th, 2008.
On her 1st attempt she admitted to Judge Cohn on October 27th, 2008 that there had never been any domestic violence incidents since we met in 1990. She added, answering the Judge's question, that she felt no danger for our daughter. We were both self-represented. So on the 2nd go-around I represented myself in DV Court again and she had a lawyer.
A 1 year TEMPORARY restraining order was ordered against even though I had proof that a false police report was filed with Miami-Dade Police Department and it was allowed to included as evidence against my objection.
But, it gets worse, at the end of the hearing I placed an envelope with a "legal document" that I'd just filed in the Paternity Case on the opposing party's table. For this Judge Brennan returned to the bench called us back to our places and without even checking the contents of the envelope she ordered me (and I completed) a 26-week Batterers Intervention Course.
Each week for 26-weeks an average of 20 men (in each session including me) discussed a variety of topics regarding DV. I heard some men admit to committing domestic violence...it was shocking, awful and repulsive! However, I learned a great deal and was able to tell my story. By the way I was one of less than a handful of those men that did NOT have to wear an "ankle bracelet".
The Family Court has been advised over and over that perjury has been committed (in the case) and that Florida State laws have been broken. I advised the Presiding Family Court Judge, Director Loftus of the Miami-Dade Police Department, and Katherine Fernandez Rundel at the State Attorney's Office; following the instructions of the very same Family Court Judge.
Is The Playing Field Level For Men In The Family Court System?
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The slogan "press on" has solved and always will solve the problems of the human race." ~ Calvin Coolidge - 30th President of United States of America (1872 - 1933)
The slogan "press on" has solved and always will solve the problems of the human race." ~ Calvin Coolidge - 30th President of United States of America (1872 - 1933)
