Improving Your Chances of Gaining Child Custody - Never Give Up!

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+Mark A Nacol, Esq.

We only support organizations who show an understanding that children need both parents, and that either parent is equally capable of the choice to perpetrate hate or declare peace.

GOP Version Of Violence Against Women Act

‘Men’s Rights’ Group Endorses GOP Version Of Violence Against Women Act

Most women’s rights and LGBT equality organizations are opposing the GOP’s version of the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA), which removes the protections for marginalized communities from the Senate’s version of the bill. But at least one group is coming to the GOP’s defense.

The National Coalition for Men (NCFM) has released a statement arguing that the Republican alternative will “ensure more of the abused are better served” and provide protections for the “true victims” of domestic violence — heterosexual men:

Those opposing H.R. 4970 loudly assert that VAWA serves all people, which is absurd on its face given the name of the Act. Opposing versions, by omission and lack of specificity generally exclude men, particularly heterosexual men, regardless of specious arguments to the contrary.

We cannot adequately address violence related issues by excluding half of the population, allowing precious resources to be squandered for ideological purposes, empowering false accusers at the expense of the true victims, and letting malfeasance and maladministration to run unchecked without holding applicable administrators accountable.

Comment:

Children's Rights Florida

http://www.mediaradar.org/

False reports of abuse are an epidemic in divorce and child custody cases, and VAWA and its supporter ignore the fact domestice violence is committed by both genders. The Violence Against Women Act should be replaced by a law that truly add...ress the problem of violence in domestic relations in a gender-neutral way in proportion to the causes. And provisions should be included to fully comply with the 14th Amendment guaranty of Equal Protection of the Laws and Due Process of Law.

Denuncia que la agredieron familiares de su ex pareja y resultó ser un vecino

viso at CUSTODIA PATERNA - 19 hours ago

Sábado, 28 de Septiembre, 2013 El Juzgado de lo Penal ha condenado a una mujer a una multa como autora responsable de un delito de denuncia falsa en grado de tentativa después de que denunciara a dos familiares de su ex pareja de una supuesta agresión hacia ella y su hijo cuando en realidad había sido un vecino. La sentencia considera como hechos probados que el 8 de septiembre de 2010 fue remitido al Juzgado de Instrucción Número 4 de Palencia dos partes de lesiones confeccionados con fecha de 5 de septiembre de 2010 tanto de ella como de su hijo. Tras ser llamada a declarar en nov... more »

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The steady erosion of the Jury Trial.

A Civil Justice System With No Trials

This article by David Beck was first published in the Texas Bar Journal‘s December 2013 issue. — Ed.

“The steady erosion of the American trial is our dirty little secret.”

A majority of the American public might be surprised to learn that there is indisputable statistical evidence that the number of jury and non-jury trials in our country is, and has been, sharply declining, both in absolute and relative terms.1 For example, in 2010, only 2,154 jury trials were commenced in federal district courts, which means, on average, Article III judges tried fewer than four civil jury trials that year. While jury trials in federal court obviously have declined, the decline in bench trials has been steadier and steeper.2 Even though the number of lawyers continues to increase, the number of trials is still decreasing3.

False Allegations of Domestic Violence ""IS"" Domestic Violence!

Do it For the Children, Stolen With a Lie

Dear Friends,

One in six Americans know someone who has been falsely accused of domestic violence. The silver bullet in divorce, false allegations are sometimes used to obtain child custody. This despicable act removes fit and loving parents from the lives of their children. 

Please take a moment, as soon as possible, and speak out for the millions of children who are missing a falsely accused parent. And do it for the parents who are grieving for their children, stolen with a lie. 

Find your senators here:

http://www.senate.gov/general/contact_information/senators_cfm.cfm

Take note of their party affiliation and phone number. 

If your senator is a Republican, call, and ask them to support Sen. Grassley's Substitute Amendment to VAWA. 

If your senator is a Democrat, call, and ask them to demand changes to Sen. Leahy's VAWA (S. 1925), to curb false allegations of domestic violence.

Thank you for taking a stand for affected families everywhere.

~http://www.saveservices.org/2012/04/elert-do-it-for-the-children-stolen-with-a-lie 

Published on Apr 9, 2012 by 1menaregood1

We have only heard half the story about domestic violence and that half is the female victims and male perpetrators. But there is another side to this story. The male victims and female perpetrators. Somehow that side of the story simply doesn't get told. This short video touches on these issues and opens up the reality of the male side of domestic violence.
RESOURCES

http://batteredmen.com/Journal.htm

FROM THE VIDEO
NISVS - http://www.cdc.gov/ViolencePrevention/NISVS/
Murray Straus article - http://pubpages.unh.edu/~mas2/V71-Straus_Thirty-Years-Denying-Evidence-PV_10.pdf
NCADV Fact Sheet -http://www.ncadv.org/files/DomesticViolenceFactSheet(National).pdf
original research showing 1.3 million female victims and 834,732 males -https://www.ncjrs.gov/pdffiles1/nij/181867.pdf
Denise Hines - http://www.clarku.edu/faculty/dhines/
Hines - Male Helpseeking -http://www.clarku.edu/faculty/dhines/Douglas%20%20Hines%202011%20helpseeking%

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6th Annual Nationwide Fatherless Day Rallies

Fri, June 14, 2013, 10:00 AM

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"An individual who breaks a law that conscience tells him is unjust, and who willingly accepts the penalty of imprisonment in order to arouse the conscience of the community over its injustice, is in reality expressing the highest respect for the law" ― Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

The "Best interest of the Child" Standard is not in the best interest of the child but it is subliminally manipulated to be in the best interest of Legal Professionals profiteering on the best interest of the child. In the Bill-of-Rights "paramount importance" best interest of the child is way to subliminally manipulative to be used on it's own. Why must criminals get a lot more protection than children concerning "You have the right to remain silent, anything you say may be used against you in a court of law". IN EXCRUCIATING DETAIL. Criminals gets a lot more protection than children in the Bill-of-Rights. This will change. http://www.youthforhumanrights.org/take-action.html

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"Time's Up!" - The Department of Justice Report

by Barry Goldstein 

An excerpt from the article ~

Clusters of Qualifying and Disqualifying Beliefs 

The heart of this study was to consider how the training, knowledge, experience and beliefs of evaluators and other court professionals affects their recommendations and decisions. The study found clusters of beliefs that appear to be connected to training, experience and biases rather than the facts and circumstances of the case. This tended to confirm the belief that evaluations often tell us more about the evaluator than the parties being evaluated. 

One cluster of beliefs by evaluators (and judges) included the mothers often make false allegations about dv and child abuse, survivors alienate children from the other parent, dv is not an important factor in making custody decisions, and children are hurt when survivors are reluctant to co-parent. These professionals tended to have less training in domestic violence and had personal beliefs supporting patriarchy and sexism. I will refer to these as unqualified professionals, but please understand that is my term. 

Evaluators with better training, more familiarity with domestic violence and an understanding that mothers rarely make false allegations of domestic violence or child abuse tended to recognize that dv is important in custody decisions; victims do not alienate the children; and victims do not hurt children when they resist co-parenting. I will refer to these as qualified professionals. 

We Are NOT Gonna Take It Anymore

Everyone loses when parental alienation gets nasty

Dear Readers: The ugly parental alienation issue blew up at Christmastime with many hurting and angry readers writing in. The spark was a letter from a separated man, Dad at the End of His Rope, whose heart was breaking because his ex had bad-mouthed him to his children (all over the age of 18) to the point they won’t talk to him anymore. During the marriage, he made big money working out of town. He was away three weeks a month and home one week. During his time at home he and his wife would fight often. He supported his wife and three kids then, and still does. He feels the kids have been taught to hate him and yet he pays and pays. He says he’s just the "bank machine." Here are some of the responses from other readers.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: You wanted to know why Dad at the End of His Rope is still paying child support for offspring 18 and older, asking if they are going to university? And, you asked if was planning to pay spousal support forever? The way you worded it, a potential deadbeat dad might take this to mean he doesn’t have to pay while they are in university.

As far as the spousal support, this woman raised his children to adulthood, and that was a job. He may have to pay her spousal support according to an agreement until she is 65, like another person I know who was a stay-at-home mom and wife. Why shouldn’t she deserve this? Should she be expected to live in a tiny studio apartment now that he has decided he wants out?

I don’t receive spousal support, but I do get child support, and it struck a sore point with me because I have to go to a lawyer in January because my crazy ex thinks he doesn’t have to pay child support while our son is in university and only gave me cheques to last until my son turns 18 next summer.

— Sore Point, Manitoba

Dear Sore Point: It’s understandable you’re upset. You need to see your lawyer and review your original agreement to see what you actually signed for. As for the woman who has been fully supported until now, yes, that was her job as her husband was away 75 per cent of every month, but he was far from being a deadbeat dad. Now these parents have split, the kids are legal adults and expectations of this man need to change. This newly separated woman, whether she likes it or not, needs to get training and get a job or start a business for her own independence, her self-esteem and her new social life. Why should she get a free ride from her ex-husband until she’s 65? She could be in her late 40s or early 50s at this point.

Everybody in that household should have been working at least part time by the time they were 18. It’s not good for grown kids, or even moms, to have no work experience of any kind to put on a resume. Maybe this well-heeled ex-husband would like to make a big one-time settlement offer that would cover his ex-wife’s education or start-up money for a small business, and then be free.

Money talks for this bitter lady. After she is paid off, maybe then she can stop bad-mouthing him and the kids can start having relationships with their father again. Couples counselling didn’t help before; it really sounds like the wife needs personal counselling on her own to get through her anger and bitterness. See the important letter below from a woman who alienated her children from their dad.

Dear Miss Lonelyhearts: Hopefully these children of his will come around, and maybe parental alienation will no longer be the dark side to this situation. This wife is a catalyst and needs therapy, and he should stop making all payments where lawfully possible. It’s so sad the children can only hear when money speaks. Parental alienation is about a parent and child’s love, not a bank account.

I too have first-hand experience. Many years ago I went through a terrible divorce and convinced my children their father was a horrible person and they went years not communicating with him because of me. A couple years ago, he suddenly passed away, and now I’m left with broken children who are in counselling, full of regrets and blaming me.

I know of many other nasty divorces in which children have being manipulated and convinced into taking sides. I know a 10-year-old, a 20-year-old and even someone in their 30s who is in this situation. Too many parents like myself become selfish and want everyone, including their children, to hate their ex. That benefits no one, especially the children. Parents need to keep the kids out of all the details pertaining to a divorce and stop bad-mouthing their exes. This just screws up their children’s heads and doesn’t enable them to have healthy relationships in the future. You can’t erase regrets.

— Many Regrets, Winnipeg

Dear Many Regrets: Your kids need to hear about your regrets, and you need to correct the exaggerations you made and tell them how sorry you are. Don’t try to justify the nasty things you said, instead help to rebuild a realistic picture of their deceased father with all his good points. They may be furious with you at first, but if you can restore a better image of their father it will help them heal, and after some time, they will heal towards you.

It’s hard to face up to the fact that you loved this man you ended up divorcing. You loved him enough to choose him above all others, to marry him and have children with him. You might start by writing him a letter, which of course you can’t send, thanking him for the love you had in the beginning, the children and remembering some of the good times. Someday you might want to show that letter to your children, or you may not. Either way, it will help to melt some of the bitterness away for you, and perhaps for your children.

By: Miss Lonelyhearts

Please send your questions and comments to lovecoach@hotmail.com or Miss Lonelyhearts