Parental Alienation is Recognized as a Form of Child Abuse by American Psychological Association


Compiled by DV LEAP, Joan Meier, Director, and Andrew Hudson (intern) for consideration by the Committee on the DSM-V

The following brief compilation includes cases that DV LEAP is aware of, either through its own litigation, that of colleagues, and/or press accounts. Where there are published appellate opinions, cases are cited instead in the accompanying memorandum overview of all published cases referencing PAS as of 2009. A very few cases are cited in both this memorandum and the accompanying one.

1) O. v. O. (Ark. 2008)

In a divorce action, the husband admitted to physically abusing the wife on two occasions, and the trial court credited the wife’s account of a third incident, but found that it did not reach the level of domestic violence.

The oldest child and to a lesser extent the younger child reported abusive incidents by the father, and fear of the father, to their therapist, who testified. However, a psychiatrist – relied on by the state child protection agency - testified that the mother’s and children’s allegations of physical abuse were nothing more than Parental Alienation Syndrome. On this basis, as well as the trial court’s finding that the three known incidents did not constitute a “pattern,” as required by statute, the court denied a PO.

The court subsequently awarded sole physical custody of the children to the husband, again influenced largely by the PAS evaluator. The psychiatrist testified that the mother would, if given the opportunity, spread the “condition” to the other children as well.

After the trial court’s order was entered, the father was arrested at gun-point and charged with child endangerment after he fled the scene of an auto accident he caused, leading police on a high-speed chase with the three boys in the truck. Despite this and another incident necessitating temporary removal of the children from the father, neither DHS nor the court would return custody to the mother, and the father retains custody. Both the PO and the custody case are on appeal.
2) B v. D (2001-2007)

Mother and father had never lived together, and father was threatening and abusive toward the mother. On returning from a visit at her father’s the daughter (then 5) told her mother that the child’s father had touched her vagina with his fingers for “a long time.” After being advised by the counselor who had been working with the child to report to DCF, DCF advised her to call the police and pediatrician. The police commenced their own investigation which included an interview of the team by the State’s abuse team coordinator, employed by the Yale-New Haven Child Abuse and Sex Abuse Clinic. The child reported several other sexual touchings to this evaluator, who found her statements credible. The Yale Clinic found that the child had been sexually abused. DCF’s social worker also reported a credible disclosure by the child.

The father was criminally prosecuted but the case resulted in a hung jury. The child refused to testify again so re-prosecution was not possible. In the meantime the Family Court concluded that the father had not abused the daughter, in large part due to the opinions of several evaluators who opined that the mother and daughter were afflicted by Parental Alienation Syndrome. They claimed that the mother fervently believed that her daughter was molested, and had convinced her daughter that she was, but she wasn’t. At least one of these “diagnoses” was provided without any contact with the child.

The father then sued the mother in civil court for “malicious prosecution” and received an award of $3.5 million damages, which was upheld despite a vigorous and well-conducted appeal. The father has since terminated his parental rights; the mother is sole provider for the child, and is forced to pay the father a weekly deduction from her meager paycheck. (The father is now suing the state agencies that believed the child; he also unsuccessfully sued one of the judges.) , Ajai Bhatia v. Marlene Debek, 948 A.2d 1009 (Conn. 2008).

3) Collins

A father’s beating caused a skull fracture in his six-year-old son. The boy’s younger sister also complained of being beaten and had multiple bruises on her body. The mother asked the court to stop visitation with their father. A court evaluator determined that the mother’s refusal to send the children to their father was a classic example of Parental Alienation Syndrome. The court gave the father full custody when the children were ten and seven, and gave the mother only supervised visitation.

After eighteen months of pleading with their mother that they were suffering, the mother took them and escaped to the Netherlands where a court granted her human rights refugee status after a full hearing of the facts of the case. The children received trauma therapy in the Netherlands, and the daughter, now twenty-three, has started her own nonprofit organization to protect other children from the horrors that she endured because of Parental Alienation Syndrome, and has begun to lobby Congress to change the laws about child protection.

Documentation on file with The Leadership Council on Child Abuse & Interpersonal Violence.

See also Beth Walton, Battered woman becomes American refugee in Amsterdam, City Pages, July 29, 2008; Beth Walton,Holly Collins returns after 14 years in hiding, City Pages, September 23, 2008; Glenn Sacks;American Children Underground.

4) Jensen

Irene Jensen and Richard Carver divorced after Carver was arrested on charges of spousal battery. Jensen received custody of the couple’s then four-year-old daughter. A few months after the divorce, the daughter reported that her father physically abused her. The sheriff’s office declined to prosecute, citing insufficient evidence. The next year, the daughter told a doctor that her father had sexually abused her.

Carver argued that Jensen was behind the allegations of abuse, and was alienating their daughter from him. Despite reports of suspected child abuse filed by doctors, a court gave Carver custody of the daughter. After years of living with Carver, the daughter ran away to escape physical abuse. She ran for eight months, eventually finding placement in a foster home. When she was sixteen, a court finally returned custody to Jensen.

Mom termed ‘parental alienator’ wins rare vindication in courts, Troy Anderson, The Daily News of Los Angeles, June 18, 2006, N1.

5) Wilson

Tina Wilson was divorced from her husband, who had been convicted of domestic abuse. They shared custody of their daughter. After the daughter told a therapist that her father physically and sexually abused her, she was put in foster care while court proceedings commenced.

The court gave the father custody. While with Wilson for a visit, the daughter reported that the father had threatened her life and Wilson’s. Wilson took the girl to a domestic violence shelter to avoid turning her over to the father. The police located them and placed the girl in the father’s custody.

Despite the testimony of a child psychiatrist that the father abused the girl verbally, physically, and sexually, the court did not credit the allegations of abuse. The court determined that the mother’s allegations and attempts to protect her daughter were a wrongful attempt to alienate the girl from her father. The court granted the father sole custody.

Judge grants sole custody of 9-year-old girl to father; Dad denies abuse allegations; mom was accused of turning girl against him; she’ll appeal, Kiran Krishnamurthy, Richmond Times Dispatch, January 19, 2007, B-1; Custody case is continued; girl will be evaluated, Frank Green, Richmond Times Dispatch, November 16, 2006, B-4; Theory issue in custody dispute; The merits of parental alienation syndrome are disputed among groups, Kiran Krishnamurthy, Richmond Times Dispatch, November 12, 2006, B-1.

6) Coleman

In the years leading up to their divorce, Jillian and William Coleman’s relationship became strained. On at least one occasion, William physically attacked her. Eventually, William moved out of the house entirely. Both Jillian and William became involved with other people. Despite this, and against Jillian’s wishes, when Jillian bought a house for herself and the couples’ two children, William moved in, as well. He insisted that they hold “family meetings,” which he would use to “discuss with the [children] that their mother had become involved with another man.” At some point William threatened to leave the country with the boys unless Jillian stopped seeing the man she had become involved with. A few weeks later, Jillian told a friend of hers that William had raped her. The next day, William was arrested.

After William’s arrest, divorce and custody proceedings began. Both Jillian and William sought sole custody. Jillian portrayed William as “a controlling and abusive man,” but William claimed that her allegations were an attempt to gain advantage in the court proceedings, and to alienate the children from him. The court rejected William’s argument and awarded custody to Jillian with visitation for William. As in so many other cases, this was upheld on appeal on the ground that the decision could be upheld without deciding the admissibility of PAS.

Coleman v. Coleman, 2004 WL 1966083, 2004 Conn. Super. LEXIS 2147 (Conn. Super. 2004)

6) C.J.L. v. M.W.B.

A couple separated and divorced after their two children – aged four and two at the time – described being sexually molested by their paternal grandparents. The social worker who interviewed the children days after the report “[a]pparently . . . concluded that it was very likely that the children were sexually molested.”

Two years after the couple divorced, one of the children returned from a visitation with the father upset. The child’s anal area was red and painful, and the child complained that the father had “dug in his bottom.” The mother immediately stopped allowing visitation. After an investigation into the allegations was dropped, and a court ordered that visitations resume. Within months the same child again reported that the father “dug in his bottom.”

The court appointed a custody evaluator to aid it in determining how to resolve the problem. The evaluator determined that while the mother appeared to be a good parent, her refusal to drop the abuse “issue” warranted “serious questioning of her overall parental capacity” and diagnosed PAS. The evaluator interpreted the children’s drawings, one of which showed the father physically abusing the mother, as further evidence that the mother’s conduct was “alienating” them from their father.

The court, based on the mother’s “alienating” behavior, awarded full custody of the children to the father.

C.J.L. v. M.W.B., 879 So. 2d 1169 (Ala. Civ. App. 2003)

7) White v. Kimrey

Tabitha Kimrey and Michael White never married, and were not living together when their daughter was born. Michael had some contact with the daughter in her first months, but stopped because Tabitha’s family made him “very, very uncomfortable.” He eventually filed for joint custody. Tabitha stated that Michael had been physically and emotionally abusive to her, and asked that any visitation with her daughter be supervised.

Apparently since the daughter’s first visit to Michael’s home, Tabitha accused him of sexually abusing their daughter, and sought to end visitation or require that it be supervised. A psychologist testifying for Michael diagnosed the daughter with Parental Alienation Syndrome, and recommended that custody be transferred to Michael. The trial court did not find that abuse had occurred, and awarded sole custody of the daughter to Michael. On appeal, Tabitha was granted joint legal custody and visitation rights.

White v. Kimrey, 847 So. 2d 157 (La. 2003)

8) In re Marriage of McCord

Michael and Carly McCord divorced before their daughter was a year old. Carly was granted primary custody of the daughter, and Michael visitation. A few years later, Michael re-married, and adopted his new wife’s two young daughters. After a visit with Michael’s family, when the McCords’ daughter was almost five, she told Carly that she could not use the bathroom “because her crotch hurt.” Carly noticed redness around the daughter’s vagina when giving her a bath. The daughter then told her mother that her new step-sisters had “poked a pencil in her crotch.” The daughter was examined by a doctor, who noted “genital changes consistent with some type of external irritation.”

Carly refused to let the daughter visit with Michael’s family. A state agency investigated and failed to confirm the abuse, and a court then ordered visitation to resume. After the next visitation, Carly again reported that she believed her daughter had been sexually abused by her step-sisters, and she again refused to allow the girl to visit Michael’s family. The second incident was not substantiated by a doctor or by a state agency. A social worker who had been counseling the girl diagnosed her with Parental Alienation Syndrome, and recommended that Michael be given custody. The court apparently credited the report: it did not find that abuse had occurred, and gave custody of the daughter to Michael.

In re Marriage of McCord, 2003 Iowa App. LEXIS 1027, 2003 WL 23219961 (Iowa App. 2003)

9) Krause v. Simone-Smith

During a contentious custody dispute, a ten-year-old girl begged the judge, her appointed attorney, and her therapist to allow her to live with her mother. She begged her attorney to enter evidence of the physical abuse and neglect she suffered at her father’s hands. The court-appointed evaluator issued a report based in part on information from the girl’s therapist, with whom the father “had a ‘seemingly intimate relationship.’” The report suggested that the mother suffered from mental illness, and had caused Parental Alienation Syndrome in the girl. The court awarded custody to the father.

When in her father’s custody, the girl was often left at home alone. She felt verbally and physically abused by her father – at least one time, she required medical attention after an incident. At another point, a teacher at her school called child protective services after seeing the father shoving the girl and swearing at her. Roughly one year after gaining custody, the father checked the girl into a locked facility for children with behavioral or mental problems, where she was forced to undergo “treatment” for five months. She then finished out junior high at a boarding school.

Less than a week into high school, the girl ran away from home. When she was located by authorities, a new judge gave custody to the girl’s mother, rejecting the reports and evaluations from the first proceeding as biased and without foundation. Later, after beginning college, the girl filed a law suit against her father, her childhood therapist, and the court-appointed attorney who represented her in the initial custody dispute.

Girl, Interrupted, Bernice Yeung, SFWeekly, December 18, 2002 (

10) Hollingsworth v. Semerad

Lauren Hollingsworth and James Semerad divorced when their daughter was three years old. Hollingsworth was given primary custody, and Semerad visitation. Six years later, Hollingsworth began noticing evidence of physical abuse. First, when her daughter was taking a bath, Hollingsworth noticed a bruise on her shoulder. When she asked about it, her daughter eventually “admitted that her father had punched her in the shoulder with his fist.” Hollingsworth photographed the bruise. Five months later, the daughter returned from a visit to her father with bruises on her chest, buttocks, and arm. She said her father had hit and pinched her. A few months later, Semerad slapped her several times while in the car, once causing her to hit her head on the window. The next month, Semerad “repeatedly jammed [the daughter] into the refrigerator.” Twice more, every several months, the daughter returned from visitation with bruises from her father.

Hollingsworth asked a court to modify Semerad’s visitation. By this point, the daughter’s distress over visiting her father was so great she pulled her hair out. All three health care professionals treating the girl found her allegations of abuse credible, and recommended that any visitation with her father be supervised by a mental health professional.

During the course of litigation, it was discovered that Semerad had seriously physically abused his second wife, and might have problems with alcohol use. Despite this, one doctor “concluded that the father was the victim of parental alienation syndrome . . . .” The court disagreed, found that the father had been physically abusive, and required that any visits by the father be supervised by a neutral party. On appeal, the court noted that the doctor who diagnosed PAS “made no apparent effort to ascertain the validity of the child’s complaints of abuse by the father.”

Hollingsworth v. Semerad, 799 So.2d 658 (La. 2001)

11) People v. Fortin

Michael Fortin was accused of attempting to rape his wife’s thirteen-year-old niece. In his criminal trial, he argued that accusations by the wife and the niece were false. Because there was “a considerable delay” between the time of the incident and the time it was reported to police, Fortin claimed that the accusations were a product of Parental Alienation Syndrome. Richard Gardner testified on PAS at a hearing. The court acknowledged that Gardner had testified in many other cases, but declined to allow testimony on PAS because the defense had failed to show that the theory was generally accepted in the professional community. Fortin was later convicted of sexual abuse in the first degree, sodomy in the second degree, and endangering the welfare of a minor.

People v. Fortin, 184 Misc. 2d 10, 11 (N.Y. County Ct. 2000); see

12) Grieco

For four years after Louis Grieco and Karen Scott divorced, their three sons lived with their mother and visited their father regularly. Karen and Louis were able to work together amicably to facilitate the visits. But after Karen announced she was remarrying, Louis’s relationship with the boys and Karen became strained. The boys became reluctant to visit Louis, saying he was angry and hostile, shouted at them, and once threw one of the boys to the floor, causing him to hit his head. Things came to a head in a violent altercation between Louis and Karen at Karen’s home. Louis was arrested and charged with aggravated assault.

After that incident, the boys openly refused to visit their father, saying they were afraid of him, and were angry about the assault. Karen urged the boys to attend the visits, but they continued to refuse. A court then ordered sheriff’s deputies to physically escort the boys to a visit; the boys were man-handled into the sheriff’s van and taken to see their father. Shortly afterward, the eldest boy suffered a nervous breakdown and was hospitalized.

Louis then moved for full custody, based in part on the opinion of Richard Gardner that the children suffered from PAS. Gardner had not interviewed the children or their mother, but nonetheless diagnosed the problem as a “classical example of PAS.” Gardner recommended “threat therapy” – that the court should punish the mother if the boys refused to visit their father. The court agreed, and followed Gardner’s advice.

The court-ordered visits did nothing to improve relations between the boys and their father. The most significant event was a series of “hitting incidents” which caused county officials to recommend that Louis enroll in parenting classes on appropriate discipline. After one year, Karen asked the court to end the “threat therapy.” The court refused. A few weeks later, after writing that his father’s use of the legal system to harass the family had turned his life into “endless torment,” the eldest boy took his own life. The other boys continued to be forced to visit their father.

Casualties of a custody war (three-part series) Carpenter, M., & Kopas, G., Pittsburgh Post Gazette, May 31-June 2, 1998. ( )
13) People v. Loomis

Philip Loomis, charged with sexually abusing his children, argued that their allegations were “trumped up,” and the product of Parental Alienation Syndrome. He explained that he was in the midst of a contentious divorce, and argued that his wife had “poison[ed]” the minds of the children, causing them to make baseless accusations of sexual abuse.

Loomis wanted Richard Gardner to testify as an expert that the allegations of sexual abuse stemmed from Parental Alienation Syndrome. To that end Loomis sought an order compelling the wife and children to submit to interviews with Gardner.

The court refused to compel the interviews, explaining that the statute Loomis relied on did not encompass the request.

People v. Loomis, 658 N.Y.S.2d 787, 788 (N.Y. County Ct. 1997)


Details available from Eileen King, Regional Director – DC,

14) O v H (Maryland, 2008)

In 2002/2003 the child, then six, reported that his father had touched his penis, and later his rectal area. He was immediately examined. Injuries with blood were found and documented by his pediatrician and an emergency room physician specializing in child sexual abuse. A child protection services worker interviewed the child for a few minutes, and later testified to the court that she thought the child had been coached. The judge transferred custody of the child to the father based on the coaching claims, despite the physical and medical evidence that the abuse was real.

Over the course of time the child tried several times to jump from his mother’s car when he was being taken to his father. He was hospitalized in a psychiatric setting. After new legal proceedings, a judge found that the child had been sexually abused, stopped all contact with the father, and gave custody of the child to the mother.

The father appealed, and eventually was granted some limited contact with the child. The child told his therapist that he would kill himself, his father and everyone around him if he had to see his father. The father again alleged Parental Alienation by the mother. The child’s attorney invoked privilege, so the therapist was prevented from testifying. In March 2008, after being told that he may have to see his father, the child hung himself from the stairway balustrade in his home. His mother was able to cut him down and save his life only because of the coincidental arrival of a neighbor, who supported the child from below so the mother could sever the ligature around the child’s neck. The court finally decided to cease its attempts to force the child to have contact with his father after the child had attempted suicide.

15) L v L (Maryland, 2004)

A woman divorced her husband after years of physical and emotional abuse. He continued to batter and threaten her during the course of the divorce proceedings. Days before the divorce hearing, while battery charges were pending against him, he battered her in front of witnesses at her home. He was arrested, prosecuted, and convicted.

At a court hearing on custody of the couples’ children, the mother and other witnesses testified to numerous incidents of domestic violence perpetrated by the father, many of them in front of the children. These included handcuffing the mother inside the house when he left and trying to snap the mother’s neck after attacking her on a visitation exchange. Social services had also documented that the father admitted battering the mother and threatening the children to make them lie for him. The judge found that the mother had been abused and that the father was physically violent to the children, but then diagnosed one of the children with Parental Alienation Syndrome caused by the mother. To remedy this, the judge directed the children be in their father’s custody. After several years, one of the children was allowed to live with the mother, who was then given sole custody of that child.

16) P v P (Maryland, 2008)

A father was arrested and charged with beating his fifteen-year-old son. A younger son had witnessed the beating. The father argued that he was just disciplining his son, and was acquitted.

The two judges who heard the trial for custody of the children were convinced that the mother was alienating the children from their father, despite the documented history of domestic violence and child abuse. For example, one set of photographs showed the older child’s deeply bruised buttocks after the father beat him with a metal barbecue spatula. Despite this evidence, both child protection services and the court did not believe the children were being abused. The court instead blamed the children’s attitude on the mother’s alienating behavior, and kept custody of the children with the father.

17) M v M (Maryland, 2008)

Two girls no longer wanted to visit their father. Social services had determined that the father had abused one of their siblings. Despite what would appear to be a logical reason for the girls’ reluctance to visit their father, a court ruled that the girls’ reluctance was instead caused by words and acts of their mother’s that alienated them from their father. The court found that the mother had caused Parental Alienation Syndrome in the girls.

This initial ruling was successfully appealed.


Documented by the Leadership Council on Child Abuse & Interpersonal Violence,

Note: Most of these cases were corrected thanks to the involvement of a leading child abuse evaluator who understands erroneous misuses of PAS
18) O. v. H. (Maryland, Anne Arundel County)

A court granted custody of a four-year-old boy to his father based on the custody evaluator’s finding of Parental Alienation Syndrome. The child had told a teacher, a pediatrician, and his mother that he was being abused by his father.

Two years later, the child disclosed abuse during an emergency appointment at a hospital where he was threatening suicide. The child disclosed that it felt like “a bomb went through his butt” at his dad’s house, and his dad “made him bleed.” Two medical doctors opined that the only explanation for his anal injury was forcible insertion of something in the anus. The court found the child had been abused. The judge apologized for placing the child with the father initially, calling it the most “egregious” mistake of his judicial career.

Despite multiple appeals, the child was never forced to be alone unsupervised again with the father. When the boy was fourteen years old, the court allowed him to cease visits with his father entirely.

19) O. v. B. (Pennsylvania, Scranton area)

A child of ten refused to visit his father. The child had serious food allergies, which the father denied. The father fed him the foods he was allergic to and made fun of him for “pretending” to be sick. Nonetheless, a custody evaluator determined that the child suffered from Parental Alienation Syndrome and a judge ordered forced reunification. After three years of attempted forced visitation, the child became increasingly depressed and refused to enter the building where supervised visits were happening.

When the child was fourteen the court ordered a new evaluation. The judge concluded that the child had not been alienated by his mother, but was reacting to his father’s insensitive response to the child’s illness, and no visitations would be required unless the father apologized in writing for his insensitivity and tried to reconcile with the child through correspondence to the child via the child’s therapist. The child was given the right to decide if and when he is willing to give his father another chance.

20) O. v. O. (Santa Clara, California)

Twin boys disclosed details of sodomy by their father when they were six and again when they were seven. A custody evaluator concluded that these disclosures were a result of Parental Alienation Syndrome, and gave the father full custody of the boys. They were denied any contact with their mother for three years.

A new trial was held when the boys were thirteen. The judge heard evidence from sexual abuse experts who reviewed the old videotapes and summarized the work of the boys’ therapists. The judge determined that the boys had been sexually abused by their father. The boys were removed from the father’s care and all contact with the father was cut off.

21) S. v. S. (Harford County, Maryland)

A four-year-old boy had rectal bleeding and told his mother he had a secret at his father’s house. He showed fear and woke up screaming “No!” A custody evaluator determined that the mother’s reports of these symptoms indicated Parental Alienation Syndrome. The court ordered shared custody with one week at the father’s house and one week at the mother’s.

The symptoms continued and escalated, and the court ordered a new evaluation. The child disclosed anal rape, oral sodomy, and being tied up and forced to endure multiple sex acts. The judge determined the father abused the child and all contact was suspended between the child and the father.

22) E. v. E. (Frederick County, Virginia)

A five-year-old girl disclosed that her father touched her inappropriately during weekend visits. Social services could not substantiate the allegations. The mother continued to make reports to social services as new details were disclosed. A custody evaluator determined that the reason for the mother’s continued reports to social services was Parental Alienation Syndrome – that the allegations were false, and the mother was simply trying to alienate the girl from her father. The father was given full custody and the mother was given only supervised visitation.

At the age of ten, the child reported to a friend at school that her father had punished her by putting a hot poker on her stomach. The friend’s grandmother reported it to social services. The child was removed from the father’s home, and full custody was restored to the mother. The child is allowed no contact with the father currently.

23) S. v. S. (Culpeper Virginia)

Two girls, aged four and six, reported being sexually abused by their father in the shower during weekend visits, being threatened, and being told they would be taken from their mother. Social services did not substantiate the abuse. An evaluator determined the girls’ reports were a result of Parental Alienation Syndrome.

Visits continued and the children developed severe psychiatric disorders. One developed an eating disorder and post traumatic stress disorder, and reported she threw up to get “the bad stuff out.” When the children were eight and ten a judge ordered all visits stopped until their psychiatric disorders were remedied.

24) E. v. E. (Sourthern Maryland)

A four-year-old child reported that her father hurt her in her “tutu.” Social services determined she was too young to interview. The child’s attorney told the court that the allegation was a classic example of Parental Alienation Syndrome.

A court evaluation was ordered. The evaluator determined that the child had severe post traumatic stress from abuse. The court suspended all contact with the father. The father was later arrested for an unrelated felony. He was convicted and is currently incarcerated.

25) S. v. S. (Franklin County Ohio)

A fifteen-year-old girl was experiencing joint pain, mouth lesions, and weight loss. Her father stated her mother was encouraging the symptoms as a way to keep her dependent and prevent her from visiting the father freely. A judge determined that the child was a victim of severe Parental Alienation Syndrome, had no medical disorder, and should reside with the father full time and have only supervised contact with her mother.

For three years, the girl had only supervised visits with her mother, and the medical symptoms continued. On her eighteenth birthday, no longer constrained by court orders, the girl left her father’s house to move in with her mother. Within two weeks the girl was diagnosed with lupus erythematosus. She was treated and her symptoms abated.

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    What is the research that supports such a schedule? Where is the data that confirms that such a plan is in the best interest of the child?

    Well, reader, you can spend your time from now until eternity researching the literature and YOU WILL NOT DISCOVER ANY SUPPORTING DATA for the typical visitation arrangement with the non-residential parent! The reality is that this arrangement is based solely on custom. And just like the short story, "The Lottery," in which the prizewinner is stoned to death, the message is that deeds and judgments are frequently arrived at based on nothing more than habit, fantasy, prejudice, and yes, on "junk science."

    This family therapist upholds the importance of both parents playing an active and substantial role in their children's lives----especially in situations when the parents are apart. In order to support the goal for each parent to provide a meaningfully and considerable involvement in the lives of their children, I affirm that the resolution to custody requires an arrangement for joint legal custody and physical custody that maximizes the time with the non-residential----with the optimal arrangement being 50-50, whenever practical. It is my professional opinion that the customary visitation arrangement for non-residential parents to visit every other weekend and one night during the week is not sufficient to maintain a consequential relationship with their children. Although I have heard matrimonial attorneys, children's attorneys, and judges assert that the child needs the consistency of the same residence, I deem this assumption to be nonsense. I cannot be convinced that the consistency with one's bed trumps consistency with a parent!

    Should the reader question how such an arrangement can be judiciously implemented which maximizes the child's time---even in a 50-50 arrangement----with the non-residential parent, I direct the reader to the book, Mom's House, Dads House, by the Isolina Ricci, PhD.

    Indeed, the research that we do have supports the serious consequences to children when the father, who is generally the non-residential parent, does not play a meaningful role in lives of his children. The book, Fatherneed, (2000) by Dr. Kyle Pruitt, summarizes the research at Yale University about the importance of fathers to their children. And another post on this page summarizes an extensive list of other research.

    Children of divorce or separation of their parents previously had each parent 100% of the time and obviously cannot have the same arrangement subsequent to their parents' separation. But it makes no sense to this family therapist that the result of parental separation is that the child is accorded only 20% time with one parent and 80% with the other. What rational person could possibly justify this?

    1. The Father-Daughter Institute ~
      “A father who leaves or is taken away from his daughter suddenly, and never again lives in the home with her again, can leave a daughter forever afraid to allow herself to be vulnerable to a man as an adult woman, for fear he to will surely leave her.” ~ Mrs. Karen Johnson
      Psychotherapist, Researcher, and Father-Daughter Communications Coach.
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  2. Children's Bill of Rights


    Every kid has rights, particularly when mom and dad are splitting up. Below are some things parents shouldn't forget -- and kids shouldn't let them -- when the family is in the midst of a break-up.

    You have the right to love both your parents. You also have the right to be loved by both of them. That means you shouldn't feel guilty about wanting to see your dad or your mom at any time. It's important for you to have both parents in your life, particularly during difficult times such as a break-up of your parents.

    You do not have to choose one parent over the other. If you have an opinion about which parent you want to live with, let it be known. But nobody can force you to make that choice. If your parents can't work it out, a judge may make the decision for them.

    You're entitled to all the feelings you're having. Don't be embarrassed by what you're feeling. It is scary when your parents break up, and you're allowed to be scared. Or angry. Or sad. Or whatever.

    You have the right to be in a safe environment. This means that nobody is allowed to put you in danger, either physically or emotionally. If one of your parents is hurting you, tell someone -- either your other parent or a trusted adult like a teacher.

    You don't belong in the middle of your parents' break-up. Sometimes your parents may get so caught up in their own problems that they forget that you're just a kid, and that you can't handle their adult worries. If they start putting you in the middle of their dispute, remind them that it's their fight, not yours.

    Grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins are still part of your life. Even if you're living with one parent, you can still see relatives on your other parent's side. You'll always be a part of their lives, even if your parents aren't together anymore.

    You have the right to be a child. Kids shouldn't worry about adult problems. Concentrate on your school work, your friends, activities, etc. Your mom and dad just need your love. They can handle the rest.


    ----Special Concerns of Children Committee, March, 1998

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      Sims v. Aherns, 271 SW 720 (1925) ~ "The practice of law is an occupation of common right."

      Brotherhood of Trainmen v. Virginia ex rel. Virginia State Bar, 377 U.S. 1; v. Wainwright, 372 U.S. 335; Argersinger v. Hamlin, Sheriff 407 U.S. 425 ~ Litigants can be assisted by unlicensed laymen during judicial proceedings.

      Conley v. Gibson, 355 U.S. 41 at 48 (1957) ~ "Following the simple guide of rule 8(f) that all pleadings shall be so construed as to do substantial justice"... "The federal rules reject the approach that pleading is a game of skill in which one misstep by counsel may be decisive to the outcome and accept the principle that the purpose of pleading is to facilitate a proper decision on the merits." The court also cited Rule 8(f) FRCP, which holds that all pleadings shall be construed to do substantial justice.

      Davis v. Wechler, 263 U.S. 22, 24; Stromberb v. California, 283 U.S. 359; NAACP v. Alabama, 375 U.S. 449 ~ "The assertion of federal rights, when plainly and reasonably made, are not to be defeated under the name of local practice."

      Elmore v. McCammon (1986) 640 F. Supp. 905 ~ "... the right to file a lawsuit pro se is one of the most important rights under the constitution and laws."

      Federal Rules of Civil Procedures, Rule 17, 28 USCA "Next Friend" ~ A next friend is a person who represents someone who is unable to tend to his or her own interest.

      Haines v. Kerner, 404 U.S. 519 (1972) ~ "Allegations such as those asserted by petitioner, however inartfully pleaded, are sufficient"... "which we hold to less stringent standards than formal pleadings drafted by lawyers."

      Jenkins v. McKeithen, 395 U.S. 411, 421 (1959); Picking v. Pennsylvania R. Co., 151 Fed 2nd 240; Pucket v. Cox, 456 2nd 233 ~ Pro se pleadings are to be considered without regard to technicality; pro se litigants' pleadings are not to be held to the same high standards of perfection as lawyers.

      Maty v. Grasselli Chemical Co., 303 U.S. 197 (1938) ~ "Pleadings are intended to serve as a means of arriving at fair and just settlements of controversies between litigants. They should not raise barriers which prevent the achievement of that end. Proper pleading is important, but its importance consists in its effectiveness as a means to accomplish the end of a just judgment."

      NAACP v. Button, 371 U.S. 415); United Mineworkers of America v. Gibbs, 383 U.S. 715; and Johnson v. Avery, 89 S. Ct. 747 (1969) ~ Members of groups who are competent nonlawyers can assist other members of the group achieve the goals of the group in court without being charged with "unauthorized practice of law."

      Picking v. Pennsylvania Railway, 151 F.2d. 240, Third Circuit Court of Appeals ~ The plaintiff's civil rights pleading was 150 pages and described by a federal judge as "inept". Nevertheless, it was held "Where a plaintiff pleads pro se in a suit for protection of civil rights, the Court should endeavor to construe Plaintiff's Pleadings without regard to technicalities."

      Puckett v. Cox, 456 F. 2d 233 (1972) (6th Cir. USCA) ~ It was held that a pro se complaint requires a less stringent reading than one drafted by a lawyer per Justice Black in Conley v. Gibson (see case listed above, Pro Se Rights Section).

      Roadway Express v. Pipe, 447 U.S. 752 at 757 (1982) ~ "Due to sloth, inattention or desire to seize tactical advantage, lawyers have long engaged in dilatory practices... the glacial pace of much litigation breeds frustration with the Federal Courts and ultimately, disrespect for the law."

      Sherar v. Cullen, 481 F. 2d 946 (1973) ~ "There can be no sanction or penalty imposed upon one because of his exercise of Constitutional Rights."

      Schware v. Board of Examiners, United State Reports 353 U.S. pages 238, 239. ~ "The practice of law cannot be licensed by any state/State."

  3. Dear Friends,

    One in six Americans know someone who has been falsely accused of domestic violence. The silver bullets in divorce, false allegations are sometimes used to obtain child custody. This despicable act removes fit and loving parents from the lives of their children.

    Please take a moment, as soon as possible, and speak out for the millions of children who are missing a falsely accused parent. And do it for the parents who are grieving for their children, stolen with a lie.

    Find your senators here:

    Take note of their party affiliation and phone number.

    If your senator is a Republican, call, and ask them to support Sen. Grassley's Substitute Amendment to VAWA.

    If your senator is a Democrat, call, and ask them to demand changes to Sen. Leahy's VAWA (S. 1925), to curb false allegations of domestic violence.

    Do it For the Children, Stolen with a Lie

    Thank you for taking a stand for affected families everywhere.


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