The campaign of denigration is an example of the construction of family myths which are used for the purpose of turning a child against a previously loved and loving parent. The child is programmed to believe that her/his other parent is: worthless, selfish, unloving, malevolent, undeserving, and dangerous, etc. The effective result is that the child becomes convinced that she/he will be happier, healthier, and better adjusted if the targeted parent is eradicated from her/his life. At the orchestration by the alienating parent, the alienated child adopts the following feelings, wishes and behaviors regarding the alienated/targeted parent:
Examples of the denigrating behaviors are listed below and are not inclusive:
1) Refusing and/or shunning visits with the rejected parent for no justifiable
reason.
2) Behaving miserably and disrespectfully, sometimes abusively, towards the
rejected parent when there is any contact—even in reunification therapy.
3) Depriving the rejected parent of important information including but not
limited to medical, educational, and social activities. Telling the rejected
parent that she/he is not entitled to have this information. Not consulting or
collaborating with the targeted parent in these important aspects of the child’
s life.
4) Not informing about and excluding the rejected parent from activities, parent/teacher conferences, birthdays, religious events, graduations, etc.
5) Belittling, criticizing, and deprecating the rejected parent.
6) Removing of pictures and all memorabilia of the rejected parent.
7) Failing to communicate with the rejected parent. This contact includes the
telephone, text messaging, e-mailing, Skype, or other methods.
8) Verbally and physically abusing the rejected parent by the child and/or
alienating parent—even in public locations and at the child’s activities and
events.
9) Defying the rejected parent's supervision and authority.
10) Refusing and/or returning the rejected parent's gifts, cards, vacation
opportunities, and offers for help, counseling, and guidance.
11) Making false allegations of child abuse and/or domestic violence.
12) Amnesia about and denial of a loving and supportive relationship with the
rejected parent prior to the onset of the alienation.
13) Not contacting the rejected parent to wish her/him happy birthday, happy
father’s day/mother’s day, or happy holidays on other occasions. Of
course, visit refusal on the rejected parent’s special day
14) Making the rejected parent like a persona non grata in the child’s life
1) Refusing and/or shunning visits with the rejected parent for no justifiable
reason.
2) Behaving miserably and disrespectfully, sometimes abusively, towards the
rejected parent when there is any contact—even in reunification therapy.
3) Depriving the rejected parent of important information including but not
limited to medical, educational, and social activities. Telling the rejected
parent that she/he is not entitled to have this information. Not consulting or
collaborating with the targeted parent in these important aspects of the child’
s life.
4) Not informing about and excluding the rejected parent from activities, parent/teacher conferences, birthdays, religious events, graduations, etc.
5) Belittling, criticizing, and deprecating the rejected parent.
6) Removing of pictures and all memorabilia of the rejected parent.
7) Failing to communicate with the rejected parent. This contact includes the
telephone, text messaging, e-mailing, Skype, or other methods.
8) Verbally and physically abusing the rejected parent by the child and/or
alienating parent—even in public locations and at the child’s activities and
events.
9) Defying the rejected parent's supervision and authority.
10) Refusing and/or returning the rejected parent's gifts, cards, vacation
opportunities, and offers for help, counseling, and guidance.
11) Making false allegations of child abuse and/or domestic violence.
12) Amnesia about and denial of a loving and supportive relationship with the
rejected parent prior to the onset of the alienation.
13) Not contacting the rejected parent to wish her/him happy birthday, happy
father’s day/mother’s day, or happy holidays on other occasions. Of
course, visit refusal on the rejected parent’s special day
14) Making the rejected parent like a persona non grata in the child’s life
