For many different reasons the rate of divorce is currently very high which means there are a lot of families with children going through this process.
While divorce is not easy for children (or parents) let me be clear with you that it is not the "divorce" which does damage to children - it is the adult's behavior that causes harm. The way in which parents go through the process is ...on a continuum, from parents who do a good job of staying focused on the issues and keeping the children outside the process; to those parents who unfortunately do a very poor job.
It is not uncommon for adults going through the process to experience a myriad of painful feelings including anger, sadness, rage, feelings of betrayal, panic, economic stress and anxiety. It is your responsibility as a parent to try as hard as you possibly can not to visit these upon your children. You won't be perfect, so aim high.
Lastly, it is critically important not to put your kids in the middle. It is hard enough for your children to go through the process without being made to feel that he or she is being disloyal to you because they love their other parent and want to spend time with him or her. Keep reminding yourself that you love your kids more than you "dislike" their other parent and act accordingly. ~ Dr. Joe Rabinovitz - Licensed Psychologist - Boca Raton, Florida
Supervised Visitation Week 11 at Family Courthouse - Note written by my daughter to her brother (my son) ~
Hi David, I miss you. I want to play with you soon. Say hi to your mommy.
I love you
I love you