"Oh, dry the glistening tear that dues that marshal cheek Thy loving children here in them thy comfort seek ..."

"Oh, dry the glistening tear that dues that marshal cheek, Thy loving children here in them thy comfort seek, With sympathetic care their arms around the creep, For oh they can not bear to see their father weep”  ― W.S. GilbertThe Pirates of Penzance - Act II

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"Government shall never be forgiven for supporting and rewarding one parent as they punish and torment the other."

Stand up for Gus, for Megan, and for every child forced to choose between one parent or the other.

Our children are the casualties of a flawed and adversarial family court system which perpetuates and prolongs custody conflicts for financial gain.

Whether you realize it or not, this affects you and has a negative impact on our society. 

Lets help reform our dysfunctional family the court system and save future children from this emotional abuse. Children need both parents.

To help bring our cause to the next level call, message or email me:
Joe Barrow Cell: 760-899-4423

A Powerful Letter to Family Court Judges

When family court perpetuates abuse.

Kimberly Bowers wrote this open letter to Oakland County, MI Family Court Judge Lisa Gorcyca. The judge jailed three children for not having a "healthy relationship" with their estranged father. The mother is now under a gag order and has been banned from seeing her children. Details here.
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This letter seems to represent the experience that far too many parents have had with our Family Court system's response to allegations of abuse.
Kimberly originally published her letter here.
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An earlier post about this case is here. 

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Dear Judge Gorcyca,
You don’t know me. Not personally. But I know you. Allow me to introduce myself. I am Mother.
I know the profile of an abuser, and you fit that profile.
In June of 2009, U.S. Attorney General, Eric Holder, posed this question to the National Summit on the Intersection of Domestic Violence and Child Maltreatment, “Do children need a relationship with their fathers even when their fathers have been abusive to them in the past? If so, what does that relationship look like?”
I’ll tell you what it looks like, Your Honor. An abuser threatens his victim. He tells her that he’ll take his children away if she doesn’t submit. In order to break her mentally and physically, an abuser will drag out conflict oftentimes after his victim has already worked hard all day, denying her rest, knowing she’ll need to wake early to care for her children, this being the eleventh hour. Abusers thrive on conflict, violence, and abuse. It sustains them. They tell their victim to remain silent about the abuse or suffer the consequences. They isolate their victim from a supportive network of friends and family. The abuser demands love and respect, and if those demands go unmet, then the abuser will take drastic measures to ensure obedience, using their position of privilege and power to manipulate, subdue, and control.
You said you wanted something drastic to happen to fix Maya Tsimhoni’s family. You knew full well that a family torn apart by abuse could never be whole again. You knew, but you didn’t care. You saw a fat checking account, and like an abuser in the eleventh hour, you dragged out the conflict for years because litigation incurring fees of a half a million dollars or more is of greater value than justice. You thrive on that conflict. It sustains you.
You forced Maya Tsimhoni’s children to have lunch with and to maintain a loving relationship with a father whose abuse has been documented. You slammed that gavel down, and when the Tsimhoni children refused to obey, you handcuffed and imprisoned them. And like the abuser who threatens his victim with the loss of her children, you threatened Maya Tsimhoni saying that if she violated your orders, you would imprison her children again.
Abusers isolate their victims, cutting them off from supportive and loving connections like friends and family. You tore children from a loving, primary caretaker and isolated them from each other, imprisoning them all and severing their supportive network in order to break them down and ensure submission.
Silence allows abuse to thrive, and so you put a gag order in place. You also sealed Maya Tsimhoni’s response to her abuser’s motion for custody. You said you were concerned about the Tsimhoni children’s privacy, but one does not place children in handcuffs to ensure their protection. No, you needed to conceal the overreach of the family court and your abuse of power; to hide from the world the human rights violations and child abuse being carried out by those working in family courts who profit financially from abused women and children. Silence hides abuse and this allows for its continuation. I, Mother, am not fooled by your actions.
So while you don’t know me Judge Gorcyca, I know you very well. I lived with you for many years. I documented your abuse. I spoke out against your abuse. I protected my children. I fought you for custody. I know your strategy.
I am Mother. I am the 58,000 women a year who have faced your courtroom bias. I am the protective parent fighting for my children. I am the activist effecting legislative change and educating others. And though you steal my voice with your gag order, know that where I am silenced thousands more speak in my place.
We are many. We are united.
And justice will prevail.
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  1. May, 14, 2012

    Twelfth Judicial Circuit Court of Florida
    Honorable Judge Debra Johnes Riva
    Sarasota Justice Center
    2971 Ringling Blvd.
    Sarasota, FL. 34237

    Re: FLAG meeting May 11, 2012

    Dear Judge Riva,
    Thank you for your time and consideration in the last FLAG meeting on Friday. Many points of interest were discussed and new ideas were proposed.

    As I have voiced my opinion concerning the current Family Courts hopefully you can understand my frustration within the current system. Some of the key points that you should be aware of and should be in place and are not.

    That the “family unit” should be always come first above and beyond any unnecessary interference by the courts (government) as stated in the constitution that many Family Judges have routinely ignored to the detriment of families.

    What civilized society would keep a loving father from his 10 year old daughter for over 2 years, this is an unconscionable act would not be tolerated by any civil human being yet goes on within the Family court system today. Two years, not a lunch, a field trip, a birthday, holiday, a simple phone call to my daughter to say “I love you” along with the rest of my family not having access to my child. I assure you PAS is alive and well in my case and the further destruction of my bond with my only child continues to this day.

    The Family court has destroyed my relationship with my only child and daughter under the guise of “the best interest of the child” 10 years 4500 pages 735 docket entries Case 2002DR3254. My reward for 10 years of effort NO CONTACT. This is a death sentence for Parents in Family Court, yet this court allows it to continue. Testimony with aberrant ‘facts’ fabricated by court-appointed professionals, twisted to fit the aberrant diagnoses that these court professionals relied on to perpetuate uncertainty, prolong their ‘professional’ client-patient relationships, by court order, enabling them to bill thousands of dollars. Repeated over and over, the myths, distortions and outright lies made their way into the court’s final decision. But no one used such baseless myths and outrageous fabrications against me so damnably as attorney Angela Tobaygo and Parenting Adviser Jane Green in Magistrate Susan Maulucci destructive decision and court order that stands to this day.

    No crime has been committed, no abuse has ever been done, yet this injustice continues to this day under the leadership of the current administration.

    What alarms me the most is that over the years not one, Judge, Attorney, LSCW or parenting coordinator has ever come forward and asked what are we doing to this relationship and why such a punishment for having beer on my breath 3 years ago. (FYI I picked up my 3 year chip on 4-11).

    Fact is criminals sitting in the port have more parental rights than I do, something is inherently wrong with this picture. Criminals convicted of rape, armed robbery, assault, prostitution, drugs and more all have more access to visitation from there child, phone calls and letters as well, I currently have none of that under the current destructive court order now in place.

    I will continue to fight for my parental rights and for others that have similar situations like mine within the 12th. It’s time to change for “the best interest of the child”

    One day my beautiful daughter will come to realize what the courts have done to our relationship and that her “daddy” never gave up on her, and never will.

    I have begged, pleaded, and have done everything humanly possible to see my daughter only to be bullied by opposing attorney, Judges and others in this case.

    I will not go quietly, I will not give up, I will not retreat and I will never, never surrender on the rights to have a loving, caring relationship with my daughter.

    In the Word

    Glen Gibellina
    P O Box 1772
    Tallevast, FL. 34270

    “To maintain a joyful family requires much from both the parents and the children. Each member of the family has to become, in a special way, the servant of the others.”

    Pope John Paul II quotes

  2. Hey Bio-Mom,
    I see you have found our little club here and you've decided to troll around for a bit. I first would like to say "welcome" on behalf of the men and women who suffer daily inside and outside these pages. We are glad you are here.
    Feel free to take your time and peruse the stories of men and women who have lost everything. Take in the agony and the pain, read the horror stories of men who havn't seen their children in 6 weeks, 6 months or 6 years. You will notice that all the stories share a familiar tone. The pain is real. The disbelief is palpable. The constant barrage of men ready to give up is unfortunately true. They may give up and stop fighting vindictive exes for their children and just move on, only to be later called a deadbeat loser from the same woman that deprived him of his children. They may give up and eat a bullet, jump from a bridge or tie a noose around their neck and say their final goodbye. You win, they lose. You are now an accessory to murder.
    Stick around and look at the pictures of the children that are left behind. These are the other victims. The victims without a voice in all of this. Had they had a choice they would almost always choose to have a loving caring father by their side. You deprive them of that. Not only do you assist in the murdering of fathers, but you're also a child abuser. Congratulations.
    Be sure to keep coming back to our little club here. Make jokes about how we are all domestic abusers who feel we have some ghastly privilege of fathering our children. Keep your kids close to you, be sure you cash that child support check and keep the children from Daddy if he misses a payment. It's only a fair punishment for him. Make him suffer. Make him hurt so bad he stays awake at night crying because he misses his kids so badly. Make him out to be the deadbeat you just know he is. Make his feel the depths of depression and despair by keeping his kids from him. Threaten to have him arrested and thrown in jail for inability to pay child support. You're cruising now bio-mom. You show them who is boss. Don't allow him to talk to his kids on the phone. Don't allow him to have one extra minute of "visitation". Marginalize him and make him feel what a scumbag he truly is. Don't tell him of your children's accomplishment or how they are doing in school. Keep any and all medical records from him. Keep him guessing who is with his children and where they are living. Keep doing what you are doing bio-mom. Now we all know who the boss is. It was never the judges or lawyers who caused all this. It was you.
    Now look down at your children and realize everything you have done to your ex has also been done to them.
    See, you are a child abuser after all.
    Sleep tight,
    Joe Makem

  3. MP John Hemming tells parents suspected of child abuse to flee abroad
    LK at Legally Kidnapped - MP John Hemming tells parents suspected of child abuse to flee abroad The LibDem chairman of the Justice for Families campaign group claims they cannot expect a fair hearing at family courts

    Family Court Judge Dismisses Hundreds of Cases
    LK at Legally Kidnapped - Family Court Judge Dismisses Hundreds of Cases A Harris County Family Court judge dismisses hundreds of cases without notifying attorneys, and critics claim the move has put the custody of children in jeopardy.

    Liberty Quotes - Noah Webster, Baruch Spinoza, Cardnial Robert Bellarmine
    Leonard Henderson at AFR News - "The moral principles and precepts contained in the Scripture ought to form the basis of all our civil constitutions and laws. All the miseries and evil men suffer from vice, crime, ambition, injustice, oppression, slavery, and war, proceed from their despising or neglecting the precepts contained in the Bible." -- Noah Webster (1758-1843) American patriot and scholar, author of the first dictionary of American English usage (1806) and the author of the 1828 edition of the dictionary that bears his name. 1833 "Laws which p...

    Embattled Family Court judge sees re-election
    LK at Legally Kidnapped - Embattled Family Court judge seeks re-election Suspended Family Court Judge Steven Jones filed for re-election Tuesday, according to the Clark County Election Department.

    Scott seeks $31 million bump in DCF funding for child protection
    LK at Legally Kidnapped - Scott seeks $31 million bump in DCF funding for child protection In an effort to repair his child welfare track record, Gov. Rick Scott announced Tuesday in Miami that he is steering $31 million in additional money to child protection efforts, a move aimed at reducing caseloads and increasing oversight of vulnerable children in Florida. - Gov. Scott to propose increased funds for child protection


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