167 Red Flags of Parental Alienation

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PARENTAL ALIENATION SYNDROME IS PRODUCED BY A DYSFUNCTIONAL PARENT, BUT IT IS A DISORDER IN THE CHILD.

If the child can withstand the alienating parent’s lies and manipulations, then bad parenting is certainly taking place, but Parental Alienation Syndrome is not. It becomes Parental Alienation Syndrome when the child capitulates and begins to participate in the campaign against the targeted parent. This is where the real damage occurs to a child’s developing personality and young mind and heart.

Dr. Richard A. Gardner did pioneering work identifying Parental Alienation Syndrome in the mid-eighties. He characterized the disorder as a cluster of symptoms:

• A campaign of denigration waged against the target parent.

• Weak, absurd or frivolous rationalizations given for the deprecation.

• The child’s lack of natural ambivalence for both parents.

• The child displays “independent thinker” phenomenon.

• The child reflexively supports the alienating parent throughout the parental conflict.

• The child displays no guilt about cruelty to and exploitation of the target parent.

• The child employs scenarios borrowed from the alienating parent.

• The animosity includes the friends and family of the target parent.

As this page can only, by its very nature, be brief and non-technical, if you know a child whom you believe is being alienated against one of his or her parents I urge you in the strongest terms to get expert advice from the child mental health community.

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by Vincent Schiele to my children & To those that may be concerned

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167 Red Flags or Examples of Parental Alienation

The Alienating parent will exhibit specific behaviors, signs and symptoms than those of the children and the target parent.  The following examples of Alienators behavior are called Red Flags.  The more of these a parent exhibits or enacts, the higher the probability of PAS occurring.  Below is a list of over 150 most often used tactics to alienate children from a parent.  A score of 10 or more is an indicator of PAS Impeding with visitation, despite orders Denigrating the other parent in front of anyone who will listen, including the children, as well as calling the TP or step-parent derogatory names in front of the child. Filing allegations of abuse while constantly dragging the ex into court for child support or alimony.  (Note: A truly abused individual wants to have nothing to do with the abuser, making face-to-face confrontation out of the question.) Stopping any contact with the children and the ex’s extended family or friends who disagree with them Believing that they are above the law, and that all orders/laws were made for everyone else but them. Impeding Communication with the children, including blocking access to school records and meetings and events. Grilling the children about their visit, asking the children to spy or collect evidence. Refusing visitation because the ex spouse has been unable to afford the child support or not made a payment. Statements of constant hatred and vengeance about the ex-spouse Refusal to disclose their home address

Any parent who is deprived of his or her child, even though temporarily, suffers grievous loss.

Such loss deserves extensive due process protection.

Does a wife who may have driven a husband to suicide with the assistance of our corrupt family court system, then have a legal right to claim copyright — of his suicide note?

According to attorney Rachelle E. Hill, of Bean, Kinney and Korman, and a judge, that is precisely the claim. Their lawyer has written the offices of A Voice for Men to demand that we remove a post from the forums containing the note.

It is not going to happen.

The text of the note was posted to our forums months ago. We considered doing a feature story on it at the time, but opted not to because we had no credible corroboration that the story was factual.

Attorney Hill, her law firm, and the suicide victim’s former wife have now resolved that matter to our satisfaction. The demand letter itself is sufficient for us to believe that the following note is genuine.*

Don't you lose hope, your daddy is here!

The poem below was sent by ACFC member and supporter Mike H. In it he captures the essence of lost Christmas' many men experience but ends in a way that exudes the attitude of a father determined to overcome the challenge of being separated from his children. Together, with the same attitude we will overcome this system that pits family member against family member.

Three Dark Christmases

The first and the darkest painful Yule Tide
Came after a year of chasing my bride

Her anger as cold as the winter snow
Was buried so deep, how could a man know?

With hope I had ventured across the land
Hoping in Heaven to still hold her hand
I was ignorant of her hateful plan

To steal from me children, loves of my life
Who would suspect that from his lovely wife?

We were celebrating Christmas that day
And because I was no longer away

My goal to make that Christmas so lovely
But that painful day I would have spared you

The pain you would feel when mommy would say... I hate you! Get out! While nearby you played

How shocking it was on that hateful morn
To learn that mommy viewed daddy with scorn

Stunned I was also, my child and my joy
To hear words of hate come out of your mom

Your mother, my lover, my friend and wife

Gave me no warning of this change in life

"Get out" I did, twas the last time I saw
You, or spoke to you for many weeks more

We met the next week on a frigid night
I can recall the thought, can I save this?

Perhaps I might remind her of fam-ly
Of children and of happier times when

Our love was stronger. I thought I'd prevail
I'm sorry my child, my love, but I failed

I asked her for reasons that fateful night
The answer she gave me was quite a slight

"You're not good enough for me" said my wife
The worst seven words I’ve heard in my life

Shocked, I went through the daily motions of

Routine, hoping I'd wake from this bad dream

Thinking the worst part was over for me
Soon did I learn that I was not quite right

When six weeks had passed since that Christmas night

Being apart from the loves of my life

The weeks turned to months that we were apart
And I almost did succumb to my heart

Until one day I finally “got it.”
I am a father, and fathers don't quit.

Back home to my fam-ly is where I went
Feeling a failure to my Heaven-sent

I went back to regroup, and back to heal
I went back to learn of strength unrevealed

Strength that was born of a weakness profound

Broken and humbled, 'twas self love I found

To learn that to love you, I first must love Me.
Because a daddy who hates himself
Cannot a good daddy be

I attacked with a passion flaws I had
Because nothing is better than being "Dad"

During these dark months, often I would say:
“Know I will always love you and be near
I will never give up, my child, don't fear”

Well, another dark Christmas came last year
I spent all I had to bring Yuletide Cheer

No way! Not a chance! Is what she did say
These children are mine! You just go away!

Just a short visit, I begged and I pled.
But she slammed the door and wished I were dead

I learned that tears can freeze, that Christmas day
A message from God to strengthen my heart
For His children need a daddy who's smart

Into the snow I went pondering this
Onto the motel I brought all your gifts
Thinking of ways for your spirits to lift

A visit we had, and love we did share
It wasn't on Christmas, and though not fair

Was happy to see you. I didn't care
How much you had grown! Your feet and your hair!

Telling you Daddy would always be there
And noticing that now you might not care

Stuffing this fear because I know what's right
A child needs a daddy on Christmas night
Well, Daddy is here, loves; this is not right

I gave you my love, hon, in that short time
That time they allowed, so short twas a crime
There's never been danger from me, my love

Never did I harm my purpose for life
No, we're both victims of a bitter wife

Sure, mistakes I have made during my life
But nothing that merits this bitter strife

Frozen tears I pondered on my way home
And the lessons you'll miss before you're grown

If this dad gave up on this fight of fights
I will not. I cannot. This just ain't right

So a team I did hire to help me win
This unfortunate battle that's a sin

And money they did charge, hand over fist
It was payment toward our big Christmas list

But when Christmas season was 'round the bend
I realized no money I had to spend

To pay for more promises unfulfilled
And support the local lawyers guild

So I parted ways with my lawyers then
And approached the third Christmas, now darkened

But have heart in this story my children
This is where good things will really begin

Know that your daddy has a plan for you
Because frankly, there's nothing I won't do

As I write this on Christmas the third so far
Please know my darlings that daddy's going to war

No more tears will I shed for the time that we've lost
No more lamenting the exorbitant cost

Of fighting to see you so little it hurts
No more will I let lawyers make things worse

No, they've woken a tiger whose efforts won't wain
They've taunted a father whose children are in pain
It's time that this daddy dealt some of the same

So don't you despair this Christmas my loves
Send those scary thoughts to God up above

He loves you like me, and knows what you need
Ask him to bless Daddy with strength and speed

Your heavenly father will never fail
I know cuz he's carried me through this tale

See he's my Father, too, and he loves me
A perfect example of fathering

He has a big plan, and it involves us
Being together for our next Christmas

Having this knowledge, this passion, this love
Has caused your daddy to take off the gloves

Within legal bounds I will focus my strikes
Just anger will focus my thoughts at night

Bad things come in threes, they always do say
So we're about due for a lovely day

So don't you lose hope, your daddy is here
There's no reason for sadness, or of fear

Your father, he loves you. He'll make this right
Let's see if these bastards know how to fight

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In Florida | "Enough is Enough! Family Law Reform Task Force Needed" | "Doctor sues sheriff, 9 judges and others alleging conspiracy in custody case" | Violated First Amendment Rights | Parental Alienation Enabled By Family Court Judge

Ten years into a lengthy and acrimonious split, a local surgeon has filed a lawsuit against his former wife. He also is suing nine judges, the sheriff, three deputies, four representatives from the Department of Children and Families and three representatives from Kimberly’s Center for Child Protection.

The lawsuit names 26 defendants in all, alleging that each in some way conspired against William Overcash throughout child custody proceedings following his divorce.

Henry Ferro, who filed the lawsuit in U.S. District Court, estimates that his client has spent well over $1 million in the protracted custody battle already. Overcash is hoping to recover some of that money through compensatory and, possibly, punitive damages.

The lawsuit also aims to return Overcash’s parental rights for his 14-year-old daughter, Ferro said. A judge terminated those rights in 2013 and, Ferro said, Overcash has been completely cut off from his daughter since then.

Each defendant named in the suit played a role in causing Overcash “financial, physical and mental injury,” according to the lawsuit. Here’s how:

Nine judges, including three circuit judges in Marion County, are accused of “perverting and obstructing the administration of justice.” Overcash alleges that the way judges were assigned to his case -- it was a lengthy succession, as several judges recused themselves -- violated the Florida Rules of Judicial Administration. He also points to instances where judges did not initially recuse themselves when he says they should have, and another where a judge accepted a gift from Overcash’s daughter.

Sheriff Chris Blair and three of his deputies are named for their role in arresting Overcash three times on contempt of court charges that were later dismissed. Overcash alleges that they knew, or should have known, that the charges were false at the time of each arrest. In one instance, for example, he says a deputy injured his shoulder during an arrest for failure to pay child support. That warrant was thrown out at Overcash’s arraignment, according to the lawsuit.

The four DCF representatives are named based on the “bias of DCF against Overcash,” according to the suit. This includes interpreting an interview with Overcash’s daughter in her mother’s favor, in terms of custody, despite what Overcash casts as unsubstantiated evidence and a failure to disclose to the court previous complaints

Kimberly’s Center for Child Protection and three representatives are named for their role in interviewing Overcash’s daughter. At least two people involved in that interview were not certified to do so, according to the suit.

Lori Foultz, Overcash's former wife, along with her current husband and their three-person legal team, are accused of a slew of wrongs. These include demanding an unreasonable amount in attorney’s fees from Overcash, according to the suit, and then concealing that payment, which ultimately led to his arrests for contempt of court.

Foultz and Overcash married in 1998 and divorced in 2005. They had one daughter together. The lawsuit will not affect ongoing custody litigation between the two, Ferro said, explaining that the cases would continue simultaneously.

The suit was filed Oct. 28. As of Friday, no defendant had filed a response with the court.

By Nicki Gorny
Staff writer

Published: Friday, November 13, 2015 at 1:22 p.m.

  Contact Nicki Gorny at 352-867-4065, nicki.gorny@ocala.com or @Nicki_Gorny.

Another dangerously flawed family law reform bill has been once again submitted in the Florida Legislature. As this flawed legislation persists, Republican Sen. Tom Lee, who has been embroiled in his own past divorce and child support battles, has now introduced Senate Bill 250. Many marginalized members of the Florida Bar are saying enough is enough — it’s time for Florida Gov. Rick Scott to do the right thing and form a neutral “Family Law Reform Task Force” to carefully study this issue and recommend fair and equitable changes to our family law statutes that, if necessary, do not unjustly harm women and children.

Shared Parenting Supporters Say "Changes Are Long Overdue".

The State House hearing room seemed an unlikely place for grown men to bare their souls.

Ned Holstein of the National Parents Organization testified for change.

But as father after father took a seat in a committee room, urging lawmakers to support proposed legislation to revamp Massachusetts’ child-custody statute, they laid out the particulars of their divorces and personal lives in blunt detail.

What's New(s) in Florida Access to Justice - October 2015

Posted by Family Justice & Child Protection Worldwide Reform Committee on Thursday, October 22, 2015

Posted by Family Justice & Child Protection Worldwide Reform Committee on Thursday, October 22, 2015

Florida Bar members, judges, paralegals, law students and ANY Floridians seeking legal help, we have big, big, BIG news ...

"Florida Supreme Court Justice Labarga Set to Launch Florida's first Access to Civil Justice Commission on Monday"

The details:

The Commission will study the unmet civil legal needs of disadvantaged, low-income, and moderate-income Floridians. Its work will include a close look at improving existing legal programs, developing solutions based on new technology and exploring other ways to meet the needs of Floridians caught in the current civil legal services gap.

Florida Chief Justice Jorge Labarga will formally sign an administrative order creating the Florida Commission on Access to Civil Justice at a ceremony 10 a.m. Monday in the rotunda of the Florida Supreme Court Building in Tallahassee.

The Commission first was announced by Labarga when he took the oath of office as Chief Justice on June 30. It will be the major initiative of his two-year administration.

Monday’s ceremony will be broadcast live on the Court’s Gavel to Gavel Video Portal (http://wfsu.org/gavel2gavel), on the Florida Channel (http://thefloridachannel.org/), and via the WFSU Florida Transponder satellite downlink for video broadcasters (http://www.wfsu.org/television/services.php).

Visit the Florida Supreme Court's website for more details:  http://www.floridasupremecourt.org/

Posted by Childrens Rights Florida on Thursday, October 22, 2015

Posted by Childrens Rights Florida on Thursday, October 22, 2015

Wow!!!!!! They tried to stop him from doing this on TV… Just watch you will understand ...
Posted by Tyrese Gibson on Friday, March 7, 2014

STANDING ORDER FOR FAMILY LAW CASES ~ FLORIDA

Post Miami-Dade Commission on Ethics and Public Trust.

United States Supreme Court to Enact Federal Parenting Plan Legislation

Parenting plan legislation requires or permits the parties to a custody dispute to detail how they plan to allocate decision-making and care-giving responsibilities between themselves. In a very small number of states, they are mandatory. In most states that have adopted this kind of legislation, however, they are voluntary.

Several states have enacted parenting plan legislation.

Recognizing that the adversarial approach to allocating parental rights and responsibilities is a burden on the courts, unhealthy for parents, and detrimental to children’s psychological interests and well-being, some states are beginning to explore alternative methods of dealing with custody issues.

STANDING ORDER BY FLORIDA JUDGE

Post Miami-Dade Commission on Ethics and Public Trust.

Grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins are still part of your life. Even if you're living with one parent, you can still see relatives on your other parent's side. You'll always be a part of their lives, even if your parents aren't together anymore.