Showing posts with label Father's Rights. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Father's Rights. Show all posts

Sunday

The Case for Father Custody by Daniel Amneus, Ph.D.

THE CASE FOR FATHER CUSTODY - 2016
"It is fatherhood that makes childhood possible."

by Daniel Amneus,Ph.D. ISBN 0-9610864-6-7"Es la paternidad que hace posible la infancia."Fathering Magazine for fathers, dads, family

IT IS LARGELY FATHERHOOD WHICH MAKES CHILDHOOD POSSIBLE

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It is largely fatherhood which makes childhood possible.

Case for Father Custody – 2016

Mothers make infants but when the infants become children they are likely to be less well socialized if they have no fathers. 1 It is largely father absence which creates ghettos and gangs and messed-up kids—boys trying to find their identity through violence, girls trying to find their identity through sexual promiscuity which generates the male violence of the next generation. They need real fathers, sociological fathers, not mere biological studs interested in a one-night stand or a brief or superficial relationship. Sociological fatherhood is real fatherhood. It is also what Margaret Mead called “a social invention.” In the ghettos biological fathers seldom become sociological fathers, seldom amount to much, because Mom’s sexual promiscuity or disloyalty—her belief in what feminists call a woman’s right to control her own sexuality—denies them the role of sociological fatherhood. Lawmakers and judges fail to understand that fatherhood is a social invention, that it must be created and maintained by society. This is the main reason patriarchal society— the father kinship system—exists. They do not grasp that social heredity has become part of biology and that fathers are the primary means of transmitting social heredity. They suppose that humans can live like cattle, without fathers, with only the meager social heredity found in female kinship systems such as ghettos and Indian reservations. Until lawmakers and judges see that they must support the father’s role because it is the weak biological link in the family we will have more matriarchy—along with its accompaniments: educational failure, illegitimacy, teen suicide, gangs and the rest.
This book deals with the problems of: THE FEMALE KINSHIP SYSTEM OR MATRIARCHY OR THE CLASSIFICATORY SYSTEM OR MOTHER-RIGHT——the system of female-headed families” which has created ghettos and barrios by encouraging women to marry the state and breed fatherless children who are eight times more likely to become delinquent.
children4justice Who Alienated - 2016

Fighting the disease, not treating the symptoms…

Hello Male Parents, 
I wish you well and hope you know that you’re not at all alone. Life can give us skills whether we want them or not. In time, every father facing custody and court cases involving family law will develop a ‘thicker skin’ as we all know that nothing is more personal then an attack against your human rights, your rights as a parent and your ability to parent a child.
I would like to express a very important concept today. This is extremely bold and progressive. I believe their is no ‘movements’ in the world today to change the opinion of culture in the way that will actually build up momentum.  I would like to give you an example. (the example is not aimed to defame or harm homosexual couples in any way, simply a random example.)
Equality for homosexual relationships in the USA have become popular.
Single Male parents seeking Equality in Custody andFamily law is NOT.
Who do you believe will be the first to win Public approval in the equality of raising children?
A large portion of Society will back gay rights to have two males or two females raise a child… Will Society recognize the human rights of a Male parent to have ABSOLUTE EQUALITY in custody decisions or family court? The reason behind this is because Gay rights do not threaten the power of women as much as the concept ‘ MAN VS WOMAN ‘
When I started to think about this in depth, I realized that all the titles ‘Fathers rights‘ are actually a way of setting yourself apart from the majority of people who are actually in favor in society and doing more work to make and change laws. You can go out in your yard and wave a giant flag ‘TEAM MEN!’ then go into society against ‘team women’ and see how big the teams are…
The real team we should all be one is ‘ TEAM EQUALITY FORPARENTS ‘ using Human rights and a ‘gender-less’ approach to rights as a parent. This way you are not allowing society to put you on the small team. You are a parent… the same way you are a Human (EQUAL). Many arguments are made based on age and gender. ‘for the best interests of the child‘ should NEVER be used as a justification to disregard the rights of a parent. The best interests of a child is just a term that was created by a person, made popular in litigation and put into law as a strong tactic to redirect focus and manipulate the overall outcome of a case. A 4 year old is NOT going to remember being taken away from his/her mother in the same respects as a parent that loses his/her child. Day to day memories, complex thought process, life and all that we as adults have to do to live is drastically effected and sometimes destroyed by the term ‘in the best interests of the child’. A child’s best interest is Equality & Human rights. In fact.. you.. yes you.. reading this.. were you a child? Are you suffering loss right now? are you hurting? do you see a broken legal system that effects you because your gender? Are you best interest still important to the court? NO…
In the BEST interest of Human Rights and Equality, as a parent, I advocate on the equal rights of a child and parents to eliminate any gender bias or popular cultural opinions about any parent. In law and to the world I am a Human and parent first… Do not judge me by my gender.
Human rights are LAW, public policy guides local and federal laws through a general cultural opinion that develops in popular media and different ‘movements’ in society. People (yes.. just people…) will lobby and push concepts on our government to enact laws that limit our human rights, this is not legal, but worded so ambiguously it is not correlated to its violation of our basic human rights until intense litigation and logical arguments are made and no one seems to argue it when its enacted.
There is NO special exceptions to Equality. Human rights are the same for all Human beings with NO SPECIAL CONSIDERATION for gender, age or race.
You must treat the disease, not the symptoms.
This overall message is critical, but I have still seen people waving the wrong flag. Yes it is glorious but you’re on the small weak team that is going to get stomped out, you have seen it… it’s not helping. The overall picture is human rights, parental rights. When you go into court, try making a point to keep yourself from defining yourself on the team that is not popular or favored in society. Proudly claim yourself as a parent without defining yourself as a man. This needs to be common practice in family law. All references to gender in ALL forms of law need to be ELIMINATED.
This is going to be a movement eventually… let’s start one.
My name is Ryan Sellars and I am a Human being… a Parent.
Do not define me by my gender or race or popular opinion, but by my basic human rights as a parent.
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Tuesday

An attack against your human rights, your rights as a parent and your ability to parent a child. Hello Male Parents!

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Hello Male Parents,

I wish you well and hope you know that your not at all alone.

Life can give us skills whether we want them or not. In time, every father facing custody and court cases involving family law will develop a 'thicker skin' as we all know that nothing is more personal then an attack against your human rights, your rights as a parent and your ability to parent a child.

I would like to express a very important concept today.

This is extremely bold and progressive. I believe their is no 'movements' in the world today to change the opinion of culture in the way that will actually build up momentum.


I would like to give you an example*, Equality for homosexual relationships in the USA have become popular.*The example is not aimed to defame or harm homosexual couples in any way, simply a random example.

Single Male parents seeking Equality in Custody and Family law is NOT.

Who do you believe will be the first to win Public approval in the equality of raising children?

A large portion of Society will back gay rights to have two males or two females raise a child... Will Society recognize the human rights of a Male parent to have ABSOLUTE EQUALITY in custody decisions or family court?

The reason behind this is because Gay rights do not threaten the power of women as much as the concept of  ' MAN VS WOMAN '


Saturday

No words exist to adequately describe what a father goes through when he gets divorced

A Committed, Divorced Father Story

No words exist to adequately describe what a father goes through when he gets divorced. He loses a wife who he had intended to spend the rest of his life with. He also usually loses his legacy by being removed from his own children. But he doesn’t have to and neither do you. You can do as much as you can given your limitations. Do your best to remain cordial with your ex and don’t talk about her negatively to your kids. This way you’ll gain greater access to your children. You may be able to call every night and read them a bedtime story. You can go to parent-teacher conferences. You can send cards to them and bring back souvenirs from trips you go on. You can attend their sporting events and ballet recitals. Whatever it is, your kids need you involved. You didn’t get a divorce from them. You’re their father. Forever. [Tweet This]
Here is one divorced dad’s story of all he had to overcome to be an All Pro Dad to his kids:
I am the father of seven wonderful children, four from a previous marriage (three boys and one girl) and three boys from my present marriage. During my first marriage, I would wrestle with thoughts of falling short as a father and going through a divorce only amplified those feelings. I cried myself to sleep many nights, and after dropping off the older children at their mother’s house after my times of visitation, I would not be able to go straight home and face the pain of no children to greet me.
I can understand why some non-custodial fathers move away from their children–not because they do not love their children but because of the pain and the emotional roller coaster they go through. It is their way of dealing with their pain or should I say their way of not dealing with it. I do not agree with this action, but I can understand their motivation.
In order to stay close to my children and remain involved in their lives, I turned down several promotional opportunities with my employer that would have moved me away from my children. After buying a home in the same school district as my older children and attempting to gain joint custody of my older children, my ex-wife moved to a small town 45 minutes away. At the time of this move, my older children were ages 7 – 13. Even though it was not that far away, it prevented joint custody from becoming possible and made it more difficult to see my children as often especially their school activities.
Six years later, my ex-wife moved seven hours away with the two youngest of the older children who were ages 13 and 12. (I live in Iowa and they moved to Indiana.) My oldest son had graduated from high school and the next oldest son lived with his best friend to finish his senior year. I was then only able to see my two children in Indiana one weekend a month, and due to the children’s school schedules, there were some months where I do not get to see them at all–unless I drove to Indiana and rented a hotel room for the weekend. I have missed out on their first dates, seeing them dress up as they go to events, such as Homecoming and Prom, and seeing them compete in athletic events. Not only has it made it difficult for me to maintain a relationship with my older children, but my three little boys sure miss their older siblings. (I have kept in contact via phone calls and emails, driving to Indiana a few times a year to watch them compete in a few track and cross country meets, and my regular scheduled visitations.)
Through all of this, my older children have turned out wonderfully. My oldest son joined the military immediately following 9-11, and saw combat with the 101st Airborne in both Afghanistan and Iraq before he received an honorable medical discharge for a non-combat injury in Iraq . He is now married and pursuing a degree in criminal justice. My second oldest son has lived with me for the past 3+ years while going to college, and our relationship has grown.  My third oldest son graduated from high school last year with honors, is currently going through training to be an Army Ranger, and is planning on pursuing a medical degree after leaving the Army. My only daughter is in her junior year of high school, on the honor roll, and at this time, is planning on becoming a pediatrician. 

They all love the Lord.My two children who moved to Indiana have told me more than once that they have friends who have divorced parents and hardly, if ever, see their fathers who live close by. They are amazed when my children tell them that I drive to Indiana to see them. Even though I have not been able to see my older children as frequently as I would like, my children and I are thankful for the relationship that we do have.
While divorce is difficult, I want to encourage others that you can remain close to your children if you commit to the time that it takes.
Related Resource:  12 Ways to of a Hands-On Parent

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Sunday

Denying Dads Access To Children


"Knowledge is power" ~ Francis Bacon


For decades, Fathers' Rights Groups have tried politics to address the rights of fathers, while not teaching them how to solve their current problems, like not seeing their children. Joint Custody came about to the extent it has more due to favorable court rulings, by informed fathers

Denying Dads Access To Children

Whether a man is dealing with a divorce or paternity case, it is very important to learn his rights, and responsibilities. Further, what steps a father should take to avoid going bankrupt paying legal fees on top of child support that are out of line with the ability to survive financially. The sections below will provide you with indexed links designed to teach you everything you need in dealing with Family Law issues.


Children of Separated Parents

Chapter 1: Table of Contents

In all the turmoil that surrounds the problems of separating, or separated parents, often the needs and desires of the children become lost. As much as possible, the children should not become a part of what is happening between the parents. They already have enough challenges ahead of them, even if they do not know it. Click here for a video preview of the chapter.

Children of Separated Parents
Lacking Two Parents In The Home
Kids & Divorce: For Better or Worse
Video: Fatherless America
Results Of Fatherless Family Statistics

Desires & Needs
A Child's Bill of Rights

Beginning Vocabulary
50 Phrases To Encourage Your Child
A Child's 10 Commandments To Parents
The 10 Do's Of Disciplining A Child
Reading Corner

Children of America
Fatherless & In Need Of Immediate Intervention
Lead
Preface
Introduction
The Problem
Current Policies
Recommendations
Comments



School Records

Federal Regulations
What The Regulations Mean To You
Questions & Answers
Sample Letter To Request School Records

StepParents

Second Wife Club
Living In Step-Families

Understanding Your Answers
Reading Corner
Stepparent's Right To Custody Or Visitation
Child Support & The 2nd Spouse's Income
Stepfamilies on YouTube
2nd Wife Club Store


Our Youths & Teenagers

What Boys Do Not Learn In Sex EducationWhen Does The Child Deserve the Same Rights As A LEGAL ADULT?Teens Earning Money In This Economy
Right Age To Get Married

Writing Letters

Writing Legislators About Issues Facing FathersSample Letter To Legislators
Writing Editorial Letters
Includes Editorial Letter Links To Top 100 Newspapers

Useful Links

All Children Deserve Two Parents
Georgia Supreme Court Chief Justice Leah Ward Sears has noted, children born to unmarried women and to those in cohabiting relationships "must often overcome increased risks of poverty, education failure, child abuse, delinquency, emotional distress and mental illness....the lack of a father's guidance in children's lives is a major cause of their suffering. "Marriage is the best child welfare, crime prevention, anti-poverty program we have".

Circle of Life
Telling a teen that their life will not end by waiting until they are mature for making adult choices.

Divorce
NonTraditional Families, & Its Consequences For Children

Fatherless America
"Ominously, the most reliable predictor of crime is neither poverty nor race but growing up fatherless." Fortune Magazine


Fatherless America:

Confronting Our Most Urgent Social Problem

HELP!!!

Parents Are Separating

Our Parents Are Breaking Up What Will Happen To Us?


Kids & Divorce: For Better or Worse

PBS Special


Writing Letters

Writing Letters

Writing Legislators About Issues Facing Fathers

Sample Letter To Legislators

Writing Editorial Letters

Includes Editorial Letter Links To Top 100 Newspapers


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