Who do you believe will be the first to win "public" approval in the equality of raising children?

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Fighting the disease, not treating the symptoms...

Hello Male Parents,

I wish you well and hope you know that you’re not at all alone. Life can give us skills whether we want them or not. In time, every father facing custody and court cases involving family law will develop a 'thicker skin' as we all know that nothing is more personal then an attack against your human rights, your rights as a parent and your ability to parent a child.

I would like to express a very important concept today. This is extremely bold and progressive. I believe their is no 'movements' in the world today to change the opinion of culture in the way that will actually build up momentum.  I would like to give you an example. (the example is not aimed to defame or harm homosexual couples in any way, simply a random example.)

Equality for homosexual relationships in the USA have become popular.

Single Male parents seeking Equality in Custody and Family law is NOT.

Who do you believe will be the first to win Public approval in the equality of raising children?

A large portion of Society will back gay rights to have two males or two females raise a child... Will Society recognize the human rights of a Male parent to have ABSOLUTE EQUALITY in custody decisions or family court? The reason behind this is because Gay rights do not threaten the power of women as much as the concept ' MAN VS WOMAN '

When I started to think about this in depth, I realized that all the titles 'Fathers rights' are actually a way of setting yourself apart from the majority of people who are actually in favor in society and doing more work to make and change laws. You can go out in your yard and wave a giant flag 'TEAM MEN!' then go into society against 'team women' and see how big the teams are...

The real team we should all be one is ' TEAM EQUALITY FOR PARENTS ' using Human rights and a 'gender-less' approach to rights as a parent. This way you are not allowing society to put you on the small team. You are a parent... the same way you are a Human (EQUAL). Many arguments are made based on age and gender. 'for the best interests of the child' should NEVER be used as a justification to disregard the rights of a parent. The best interests of a child is just a term that was created by a person, made popular in litigation and put into law as a strong tactic to redirect focus and manipulate the overall outcome of a case. A 4 year old is NOT going to remember being taken away from his/her mother in the same respects as a parent that loses his/her child. Day to day memories, complex thought process, life and all that we as adults have to do to live is drastically effected and sometimes destroyed by the term 'in the best interests of the child'. A child’s best interest is Equality & Human rights. In fact.. you.. yes you.. reading this.. were you a child? Are you suffering loss right now? are you hurting? do you see a broken legal system that effects you because your gender? Are you best interest still important to the court? NO...

In the BEST interest of Human Rights and Equality, as a parent, I advocate on the equal rights of a child and parents to eliminate any gender bias or popular cultural opinions about any parent. In law and to the world I am a Human and parent first... Do not judge me by my gender.

Human rights are LAW, public policy guides local and federal laws through a general cultural opinion that develops in popular media and different 'movements' in society. People (yes.. just people...) will lobby and push concepts on our government to enact laws that limit our human rights, this is not legal, but worded so ambiguously it is not correlated to its violation of our basic human rights until intense litigation and logical arguments are made and no one seems to argue it when its enacted.

There is NO special exceptions to Equality. Human rights are the same for all Human beings with NO SPECIAL CONSIDERATION for gender, age or race.

You must treat the disease, not the symptoms.

This overall message is critical, but I have still seen people waving the wrong flag. Yes it is glorious but you’re on the small weak team that is going to get stomped out, you have seen it... it’s not helping. The overall picture is human rights, parental rights. When you go into court, try making a point to keep yourself from defining yourself on the team that is not popular or favored in society. Proudly claim yourself as a parent without defining yourself as a man. This needs to be common practice in family law. All references to gender in ALL forms of law need to be ELIMINATED.

This is going to be a movement eventually... let’s start one.

My name is Ryan Sellars and I am a Human being... a Parent.

Do not define me by my gender or race or popular opinion, but by my basic human rights as a parent.
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"A Vision without Division."
Florida Unified Family Court is a fully integrated, comprehensive approach to handling all cases involving children and families, while at the same time resolving family disputes in a fair, timely, efficient, and cost effective manner.
Family Court can mean different things to different people. In Florida, the Supreme Court has recognized Unified Family Court as the best way to handle cases that involve children and families. The idea behind Unified Family Court (or UFC for short) is that a family should be able to have all of their disputes resolved in the most effective and efficient way possible. Since 1991, a series of Florida Supreme Court opinions have been instrumental in establishing UFC throughout the state. Click to view the full versions of the opinions.

Family Court Jurisdiction -See the list below for the types of cases that comprise UFC.

  • dissolution of marriage
  • division; distribution of property arising out of dissolution of marriage
  • annulment
  • custodial care / access to children
  • adoption
  • support unconnected with dissolution of marriage
  • child support
  • paternity
  • declaratory judgment actions related to premarital, marital, or post marital agreements
  • name change
  • juvenile delinquency
  • emancipation of a minor
  • truancy
  • juvenile dependency
  • termination of parental rights
  • civil domestic & repeat violence
  • modifications and enforcement of orders

"A Vision without Division." 

The video tells the story of a stubborn judge who is shown the benefits of a unified family court system and slowly begins to embrace its concepts.

The success of any family court is dependent upon effective communication among all  stakeholders both in the judicial branch and in the community. Because the model court concept must be tailored to the needs of each community and because each family court should fully explore and take advantage of resources within the community, the creation of a Family Law Advisory Group within each circuit will enhance the family court in each circuit.

Sample family law reform (FLR) consensus-building process

1. Identify parties: Identify all of the parties who should be involved, and recruit them into the process. If some parties are left out or refuse to participate, this is likely to cause implementation problems at the end.

2. Define any conflict: Defining, and often re-defining or "reframing" the conflict is usually the next step. Try to get the disputants to reframe the issues in terms of interests, which are usually negotiable, rather than positions, values, or needs, which usually are not.

3. Brainstorm alternatives: Brainstorm alternative approaches to the problem.
Sometimes this is done as a group; other times it can be done in small work groups, with different groups of people tackling different issues or different aspects of the overall problem. An effort should be made to develop new, mutually advantageous approaches.

4. Weigh alternatives and obtain agreement: After the parties generate a list of alternatives, these alternatives are carefully examined to determine the costs and benefits of each (from each party's point of view), and the barriers to implementation. Eventually, the choice is narrowed down to one approach which is fine-tuned, often through a single negotiating text, until all the parties at the table agree. Thus consensus building differs from majority rule decision making in that everyone involved must agree with the final decision -there is no vote. The negotiators then take the agreement back to their constituencies and try to get it approved.

5. Explain agreement: This is one of the most difficult steps, as the constituencies have not been involved in the ongoing process, and often have not developed the level of understanding or trust necessary to understand why this is the best possible agreement they can get. Negotiators need to be able to explain exactly why the settlement was drafted as it was, and why it is to the constituencies' benefit to agree to it. If any one of the groups represented in the consensus-building process disagrees at this stage, they will likely refuse to sign the agreement, and the agreement may well fall apart.

6. Implement: If all the parties sign the agreement, the last stage is implementation. This stage is difficult too, as unforeseen problems inevitably develop. But successful consensus-building processes are usually able to surmount such problems because the process improves the opponents' relationship so much that they are able to work together effectively in the future to overcome implementation problems.

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