A self-censored chronicle of family court dramas, lived by parents who lost all or some visitation with or custody of a child or children based on perjury and/or other false courtroom evidence
The courts dealing with children, parents, families, and divorce are horribly broken. Children, mothers, fathers, and grandparents are being severely damaged by the broken system.
Bill Windsor, producer and Director of Lawless America...the Movie developed the following list of proposed legislation from his interviews with over 750 people in every state. Hundreds of people submitted ideas to be considered.
1. All court proceedings shall be recorded, and all parties shall have the right to do their own recording of all proceedings.
[Judges and attorneys get away with lies, concealing the tone of their comments, and falsifying court transcripts; this will be a tool to make them more accountable while protecting the fundamental rights of the parties.]
2. Judges must address all points raised by all parties in every court decision with a clear explanation with citation to determining facts, statutes, and case law.
[One of the dishonest/corrupt techniques used by judges is to ignore the issues, facts, and law. By forcing judges to address the issues, facts, statutes, and case law on each issue in their orders, judges will either treat the parties fairly or expose their corruption for all to see. When judges violate this provision, an aggrieved party will now have the ability to take the matter to a Special Grand Jury.]
3. Judges must insist that people tell the truth in court with extreme consequences for those who don't.
[There are rules that will make the legal process infinitely more fair and less expensive. Judges must honor and enforce the rules. It is one of the only ways to get witnesses and attorneys to be more honest.]
4. All family court trials shall be by jury.
[Family court abuse and corruption is one of the most widely-criticized. Judges and their friends involved in the family court process create a situation ripe for injustice and corruption. We must remove the judges from this life-altering process for so many people. Let a jury of local citizens with their own families make these serious decisions.]
5. It shall be a child's right to be raised by his parent(s), free from government intrusion; have an attorney of his choice; be heard in court personally; be allowed to report abuse and know that the system will protect them; be protected from mental and physical abuse by guardians as well as the judicial system; and receive justice.
[Currently, the way children and their families are treated by the judicial system is a crime in and of itself. We the people must protect families and the children. These rights must be mandated because the existing system is hopelessly broken.]
6. No child may be taken from family without evidence and a hearing.
[Children are being removed from their homes at the whim of people. This life-altering decision must first be made in court and decided by a jury. We cannot allow families to be torn apart by people who should have no authority to take such serious action.]
7. All children deserve to live a childhood free from abuse, exploitation, and government interference during custody litigation.
[Custody litigation is devastating to many. The children must be protected not damaged by the system.]
8. The statute of limitations shall be eliminated in cases of sexual assault against children. The statute of limitations shall be eliminated in cases of perjury and fraud upon the courts.
[Laws must not be used to deprive citizens of recourse for wrongdoing.]
9. Whenever a criminal matter is raised in family court, that matter must pass to a criminal court where all normal criminal due process procedures, etc. apply.
[It is outrageous that criminal issues are raised in family court, and the accused is denied all of the legal protections.]
10. Hearsay shall not be allowed in family courts.
[Currently, judges make decisions based on whatever one side is willing to say in court. No evidence. No objections against hearsay, etc.]
11. Custody should be shared by both parents unless there is proven abuse or neglect.
[Some will disagree with this, but I happen to believe that both the mother and father are important to a child.]
12. Grandparents shall be listed on all birth certificates, and grandparents shall have automatic custody rights if their child is unable and they are willing and able. Grandparents are not always a good answer, but they should be looked at FIRST, and not as a second thought.
[The money-making machine that is Family Court doesn’t want children to go to their grandparents because there is no money in it for the system. This must be changed.]
13. There shall be no statute of limitations for child abuse.
[Protect children forever.]
14. A Citizens Review Panel shall be established to monitor all children and family matters.
15. No child, teen, or young adult may be forced into residential treatment facilities and forced to take drugs without parental authorization.
16. Child support, custody, and visitation shall be treated as one issue in family court.
17. Child support shall be based upon an ability to pay. There shall be no child support in a 50/50 custody arrangement.
18. If a parent cannot pay child support, that parent shall not be jailed. Parents who do not pay child support may be sued for fraud, and if a jury determines that fraud was committed, a judgment may be entered against the parent, and the court may revoke the driving privileges of the parent. No one should be jailed for non-payment of anything.
19. All children and family court proceedings should be public. The only ones they are protecting are the criminals.
20. Children shall be taken from parents only in extreme situations of abuse or neglect, and those decisions shall be made only by a jury after a full evidentiary trial.
21. Civil court requirement of a preponderance of probability shall be required in family court.
22. Where accusations of abuse are falsely made, there should be sanctions and criminal charges filed.
23. There shall be no custody rights granted to convicted domestic abusers. This is how they gain ground to further manipulate their victims.
24. Anyone who feels their court experience was improper may have their case reviewed by a Special Regulatory Grand Jury.
25. “Parental alienation” must be recognized as a problem and should be considered unacceptable.
26. No one shall be placed on any child abuse registry without a jury trial and a conviction for child abuse.
27. A “Safe at Home” program shall be established to protect citizens by having their addresses and contact information suppressed.
28. Remove any gender specific federal funding from Family Courts.
Will you be able to settle or will you end up in divorce court? The only reason divorcing couples end up in divorce court is because one or the other refuses to negotiate, mediate or be flexible and come to an agreement with the other.
Ninety-five percent of all divorces are settled outside court. That is an encouraging statistic, but it needs to be known that the other 5% are the ones that keep the Family Court System working over time.
It is that 5% that tend to go back to court repeatedly. At times over frivolous issues that could be solved if one of the parties would make the choice to respond to the situation in a rational manner. It has been my experience when working with clients that the underlying issue with people who are continually going back to court is the need to get even with an ex-spouse.
There is either the spouse who refuses to follow through on an agreement in an attempt to get back at their ex-spouse or the spouse who withholds child visitation or child support in an attempt to get back at an ex-spouse. They use the Family Court System to keep from having to deal with each other and to keep from having to accept responsibility for the role they play in the ongoing conflict with their ex-spouse. It is toxic behavior that damages all involved including the one engaging in the behavior.
In other words, they keep a legal system backlogged because they have emotional issues that need to be dealt with. So, here is some advice from me, if your ex pushes your buttons emotionally and you want to get back at her/him by going to court, get thee to a therapist’s office, not an attorney’s office.
Karin Huffer, a marriage and family counselor in Las Vegas has identified a new disorder for a nation already reeling from chronic fatigue syndrome, Internet addiction disorder and other new-age afflictions.
It's called “legal abuse syndrome”, and it can strike crime victims, litigants, attorneys, and anyone who has dealt with the Family Court System. According to Dr. Huffer, “legal abuse syndrome (LAS) is a form of post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). It is a psychic injury, not a mental illness. It is a personal injury that develops in individuals assaulted by ethical violations, legal abuses, betrayals, and fraud. Abuse of power and authority and a profound lack of accountability in our courts have become rampant.”
Using the Family Court System to abuse an ex only promotes more conflict. If you are of the belief that going back to court or engaging in behavior that defies a divorce court order you are engaging in legal abuse. A therapist can teach you skills needed to resolve conflict in a healthier manner, skills that will save you not only emotional stress but all the money you give a divorce attorney every time you are angry with your ex.
At the core of it all; it is Human Rights. Fathers... Mothers... Both Human beings. A child born is a Human created... that Human being created from a Father and Mother is going to be here long after breast feeding and long after its first few years of tender care. The psychological effects of gestation and giving birth are something that a Male parent cannot understand. This is not a fault or weakness, it is not permission to be treated with less Rights in Parenting. A baby is born... Parents are created at this moment too. That creation process (when parents are born) is special and important. Human rights are linked to every aspect of Parenting. To write any laws to reflect gender preference is to define WHICH parent receives more parenting rights. This is NOT a construct of Equality, it is the construct of social engineering. Culture is evolving and law is progressive. Acceptance of Equality Practice of Equality Enforcement of Equality
Ryan Sellars
Of course there is people who stand in the way of Progression and Changes in Culture.
The fight is not simply your case... That is your personal battle... and it is extremely important because when you stand up for your rights not just as a father, but as a Human being and Parent. You are taking a stand in society and showing people that you are not branding yourself in the image that society has cast shadows onto. Fatherhood... As a 'Father' you might have strength, but in court or to Mothers, you might simply trigger stereotypes on a mental & Emotional level. As a ' Parent ' you are Equal. As a Human you are Equal.
If you have read finalized court documents you might notice that words can define you. We all know that words are not truly what defines who you are, ...but on paper... to the courts... Words can limit your Human Rights. Stigma and Public Opinion are either enemies or valiant defenders of your case. Fight for your cause! and when you do, do it as a Human being fighting for Equal rights as a Parent.
Write your state reps and Write about this. Whatever wrongs have been inflicted against you, writing the state and your government about Equal rights for Parents (leaving gender descriptive words to a minimum or out completely) is the first steps in shifting culture and society into a more Equal and positive future for all parents. Imagine all the young parents who will come after us... We need to stand together and we will be stronger for it.
What is more precious: your 14th amendment, basic human right to parent your children or your 2nd amendment right to bear arms? If you had to lose one, which would it be?
“Only lawyers win in the divorce” is the mantra from which Family Law Statues where written under the false banner of a “child’s best interest.” The lack of a presumptive 50/50 Shared Parenting standard continues to make the divorce industry flourish while children’s lives lay in the ruin.
By creating this 50/50 Shared Parenting standard, our children and parents will be protected from an industry that creates, promotes and perpetuates conflict for its financial gain. Lives are ruined, lives are lost and injustices beyond comprehension as children are alienated from their parents.
The presumptive 50/50 Shared Parenting standard is based on an absence of a preponderance of evidence supporting abuse, neglect, addiction or other serious issue as defined by a Court. This fact-based and objective-based approach has to replace the hearsay and subjectively corrupt manner of today's family court processes.
Given us this single standard can reduce the amount of divorce litigation by half and allow families to move forward with the best interest of all in mind. Help protect parental rights as strongly as gun rights.
It is your duty to introduce legislation establishing a presumptive 50/50 Shared Parenting standard and protect our divorcing families from being exploited by an industry for its own greed.
Sincerely,
[Your name]
Remain an Equal Parent to your Child!
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