Who do you believe will be the first to win "public" approval in the equality of raising children?

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Fighting the disease, not treating the symptoms...

Hello Male Parents,

I wish you well and hope you know that you’re not at all alone. Life can give us skills whether we want them or not. In time, every father facing custody and court cases involving family law will develop a 'thicker skin' as we all know that nothing is more personal then an attack against your human rights, your rights as a parent and your ability to parent a child.

I would like to express a very important concept today. This is extremely bold and progressive. I believe their is no 'movements' in the world today to change the opinion of culture in the way that will actually build up momentum.  I would like to give you an example. (the example is not aimed to defame or harm homosexual couples in any way, simply a random example.)

Equality for homosexual relationships in the USA have become popular.

Single Male parents seeking Equality in Custody and Family law is NOT.

Who do you believe will be the first to win Public approval in the equality of raising children?

A large portion of Society will back gay rights to have two males or two females raise a child... Will Society recognize the human rights of a Male parent to have ABSOLUTE EQUALITY in custody decisions or family court? The reason behind this is because Gay rights do not threaten the power of women as much as the concept ' MAN VS WOMAN '

When I started to think about this in depth, I realized that all the titles 'Fathers rights' are actually a way of setting yourself apart from the majority of people who are actually in favor in society and doing more work to make and change laws. You can go out in your yard and wave a giant flag 'TEAM MEN!' then go into society against 'team women' and see how big the teams are...

The real team we should all be one is ' TEAM EQUALITY FOR PARENTS ' using Human rights and a 'gender-less' approach to rights as a parent. This way you are not allowing society to put you on the small team. You are a parent... the same way you are a Human (EQUAL). Many arguments are made based on age and gender. 'for the best interests of the child' should NEVER be used as a justification to disregard the rights of a parent. The best interests of a child is just a term that was created by a person, made popular in litigation and put into law as a strong tactic to redirect focus and manipulate the overall outcome of a case. A 4 year old is NOT going to remember being taken away from his/her mother in the same respects as a parent that loses his/her child. Day to day memories, complex thought process, life and all that we as adults have to do to live is drastically effected and sometimes destroyed by the term 'in the best interests of the child'. A child’s best interest is Equality & Human rights. In fact.. you.. yes you.. reading this.. were you a child? Are you suffering loss right now? are you hurting? do you see a broken legal system that effects you because your gender? Are you best interest still important to the court? NO...

In the BEST interest of Human Rights and Equality, as a parent, I advocate on the equal rights of a child and parents to eliminate any gender bias or popular cultural opinions about any parent. In law and to the world I am a Human and parent first... Do not judge me by my gender.

Human rights are LAW, public policy guides local and federal laws through a general cultural opinion that develops in popular media and different 'movements' in society. People (yes.. just people...) will lobby and push concepts on our government to enact laws that limit our human rights, this is not legal, but worded so ambiguously it is not correlated to its violation of our basic human rights until intense litigation and logical arguments are made and no one seems to argue it when its enacted.

There is NO special exceptions to Equality. Human rights are the same for all Human beings with NO SPECIAL CONSIDERATION for gender, age or race.

You must treat the disease, not the symptoms.

This overall message is critical, but I have still seen people waving the wrong flag. Yes it is glorious but you’re on the small weak team that is going to get stomped out, you have seen it... it’s not helping. The overall picture is human rights, parental rights. When you go into court, try making a point to keep yourself from defining yourself on the team that is not popular or favored in society. Proudly claim yourself as a parent without defining yourself as a man. This needs to be common practice in family law. All references to gender in ALL forms of law need to be ELIMINATED.

This is going to be a movement eventually... let’s start one.

My name is Ryan Sellars and I am a Human being... a Parent.

Do not define me by my gender or race or popular opinion, but by my basic human rights as a parent.

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"A Vision without Division."

Family Courts

Florida Unified Family Court is a fully integrated, comprehensive approach to handling all cases involving children and families, while at the same time resolving family disputes in a fair, timely, efficient, and cost effective manner.

Family Court can mean different things to different people. In Florida, the Supreme Court has recognized Unified Family Court as the best way to handle cases that involve children and families. The idea behind Unified Family Court (or UFC for short) is that a family should be able to have all of their disputes resolved in the most effective and efficient way possible. Since 1991, a series of Florida Supreme Court opinions have been instrumental in establishing UFC throughout the state. Click to view the full versions of the opinions.

Family Court Jurisdiction -See the list below for the types of cases that comprise UFC.

• dissolution of marriage
• division; distribution of property arising out of dissolution of marriage
• annulment
• custodial care / access to children
• adoption
• support unconnected with dissolution of marriage
• child support
• paternity
• URESA / UIFSA
• declaratory judgment actions related to premarital, marital, or post marital agreements
• name change
• juvenile delinquency
• emancipation of a minor
• CINS / FINS
• truancy
• juvenile dependency
• termination of parental rights
• civil domestic & repeat violence
• modifications and enforcement of orders

"A Vision without Division." 

The video tells the story of a stubborn judge who is shown the benefits of a unified family court system and slowly begins to embrace its concepts.

A Mother Starts a Fundraising Campaign to Defeat Parental Alienation

The Story

I have not seen my son Connor for a year now. You’re probably thinking… “What the heck did she do?” She must be shitty mother. Not so fast... ignore the prejudgment and read on.

The last time that I saw my son was August 2014. We had an amazing summer! I took him to NY to Lego Land, to the zoo, to the beach, swimming, fishing, carnivals, and the county fair. We had nerf gun wars: I was so happy that his personality was really starting to show. He's a lot like me.

When I dropped him off at the end of our summer visit - we had our emotional “goodbyes” I had no idea what the struggle ahead of me would be. 

I have thought about this for countless hours, brainstormed, investigated myself and I just can’t find a reason for how this is morally right And if you’re wondering if I discovered anything while investigating myself; I didn't.

What I have realized... 

I am happy that he has a father and step mom who love him, but I love him too. I am happy that he married a person who does love and cares about Connor. She does help a lot and Connor loves her right back.

I am not happy when his step mom tells me “He is my son, I am the good mother, and that I need to talk to the real mothers in the world, because I am not a mother.” or texts stating "I am going to get MY son ready." Don't prevent me from seeing him then say "it takes more than giving birth to be a mother." Did everyone forget the past 7 years? Or are we only considering the past 2? 

I try to get along with step mom for Connor's sake. I have taken her out to dinner, I have been to dinner with my ex and her, I have been cordial, and even on mothers day I thanked her for her help with Connor. I swallowed my pride. No response.

BACKGROUND

In 2009 It was ordered that I would be primary residential parent for my son. 4 months later my sons father moved back to his home state.

For the next several years I raised Connor alone 90% of time. I was a single mother, making nothing, and taking care of a child by myself. I was barely getting by... and I was exhausted. 

Despite being angry I understood the importance of the father and son bond. A child needs both parents! We scheduled visits and sometimes Connor would visit for a month at a time.

In 2013 I was laid off from my position at a government contractor. His father decided that he would take him until I got back on my feet. I was happy he offered. 

Since I had physical custody and my son had visited before and always brought back: I thought it would be OK to let him go for a long visit. 

What a bad idea that was! Soon after that I was slapped in the face… all the way from Wisconsin. He didn't bring him back and he enrolled him in school.

Prior to having a child, I have always made the right decisions; I worked and paid my way through school, I earned a B.S, paid off student debt, and considerably worked my way into a career. I ALWAYS KNEW WHAT TO DO, but with this situation I was out of my league.

This past June I took a long hard look in the mirror. I told myself to stop crying, stop letting people hurt you, stop talking about it; and DO something. I was ready to start the most important fight of my life. The fight for my child to know just how much his mother loves him. I started to save money, I write resumes for extra money, and I was able to obtain a lawyer. I have sheer determination and I doing everything that I can.

I have hired representation, but I have used all of my savings. This is a special case and will be expensive - here's why: UCCJEA

To simplify, it's a law to determine which state would rule over the case. The home state of the state or the state of original jurisdiction.

Obviously this is huge in my situation 

On a side note; I have my sons very best interests at heart. I believe that he has individual rights and as parents we have a responsibility. Our responsibility is to ensure that our children grow up in a loving environment, that we guide them into becoming wonderful people, and we lead by example. We protect them and their rights until they grow up and become better versions of us.

What I need: Funding for my fight.

Why I haven't Seen Him: Denied access.

Why I need donations: This is expensive, I want to see my son, I want him to know I love him.

What I will use donations for: Every penny will be spent on my son. Any amount left over will be donated to someone else who is in a similar situation as myself. Pay it forward.

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Desperately Trying To Maintain Meaningful Relationship - #StandupforZoraya

Mom testified (with her lawyer from Greenberg, whatever, whatever law firm) to Honorable Judge Valarie Manno-Schurr, on November 4th, 2014, that Zoraya was scared of her Dad.

Does this look like a little girl that is scared of her Dad?

• 6 YEARS (12-4-2008)

• 5 FAMILY COURT JUDGES AND A MAGISTRATE

• OVER 500 DOCKET ENTRIES IN 08-29595(FC17) 11TH JUD CIR-FL

• NO EVIDENCE PRESENTED (EVER) TO JUDGES THAT DAD IS UNFIT

• NO EVIDENCE EVER PRESENTED THAT DAD HAS BEEN OR IS A CLEAR AND PRESENT DANGER

• EVIDENCE PRESENTED TO JUDGES THAT DAD'S OTHER CHILD FROM HIS 2004 DIVORCE (BROWARD COUNTY) HAS/IS IN HIS CUSTODY 50% OF THE TIME SINCE ISSUANCE OF FINAL JUDGMENT

• DAD PROVEN, WITHOUT ANY DOUBT, THAT HE IS A FIT, CAPABLE, INVOLVED, AND LOVING PARENT

• DAD HAS PROVEN TO BE EXCEPTIONAL PARENT RAISING SON SINCE BIRTH.

• SON'S MOTHER (DAD'S EX-WIFE) HAS WRITTEN AND SENT PRESIDING FAMILY COURT JUDGES NOTARIZED REFERENCE LETTERS OF SUPPORT FOR DAD AND WILLINGNESS TO TESTIFY TO SAME

• THIS DETERMINED DAD IS STABLE, SECURE, EDUCATED, EMPLOYED, AND PAYING CHILD SUPPORT FOR BOTH (SON AND DAUGHTER) WITHOUT ANY INCONSISTENCY

Posted by Children's Rights on Saturday, July 25, 2015

HAPPY HOLIDAYS FROM OUR FAMILIES TO YOUR FAMILIES

Zoraya gave note above (with permission of staff) to Dad during a Supervised Visit at the Lawson E. Thomas Family Courthouse in Miami, Florida.

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Congratulations to you! You are an AMAZING father! I'm honored to know and follow your journey. You're a strong individual that will never give up on his baby girl! That makes you an extremely honorable person! Your daughter will be very proud to have a father who loves and cares for her so. God bless you, I'll continue to pray for you and your daughter.

Stand Up For Zoraya

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 Corrupt CT originally shared to Children's Rights (Discussion):

If people would take a moment to read about what is being done to our innocent children, being ripped away from parents that love them. I give you a lot of credit for never giving up on ZORAYA

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Not Allowed To Love A Parent - Redacted Transcript Family Court

Post by Childrens Rights Florida.

The following is my argument to the Court in the Parental Alienation case, Nov 2014. Identities are protected by substituting information contained inside the parentheses.

CLOSING ARGUMENT BY MR. HUGUENOR:
YOUR HONOR, DR. (ABC).  FAMILY COURT SERVICES FOUND GREAT CONFLICT, (THE CHILD VICTIM OF PA) WAS BEING PLACED IN THE MIDDLE OF THE CONFLICT AND PHYSICAL HARM TO (THE CHILD VICTIM OF PA).
DR. (ABC) STARTED THE CONJOINT COUNSELING.  HE (THE DOCTOR) TESTIFIED THAT HE WAS AWARE OF THOSE FINDINGS.  HE TESTIFIED THAT IT WAS PART OF HIS PURPOSE TO EVALUATE WHAT WAS CAUSING THE CONFLICT AND HARM AND THE PLACING (THE CHILD VICTIM OF PA) IN THE MIDDLE.
DR. (ABC) TESTIFIED THAT HE FOUND NO INCIDENT OF (THE TARGETED PARENT) CREATING CONFLICT.  THE CONFLICT WAS CAUSED BY (THE PARENTAL ALIENATION PERPETRATING PARENT).
(THE PERPETRATING PARENT) DID NUMEROUS THINGS THAT PLACED THE CHILD INTO THE MIDDLE OF THE CONFLICT.  (THE PERPETRATING PARENT) HAD EXPRESSED TO THE (CHILD—VICTIM OF PA) THAT THE (TARGETED PARENT) WAS ESSENTIALLY OF NO VALUE.  (THE PERPETRATING PARENT) DID THAT DIRECTLY TO DR. (ABC) IN HIS OFFICE.  HE FOUND THAT THE CONFLICT WAS SIGNIFICANTLY HARMFUL TO THE CHILD (VICTIM OF PA).  HE FOUND THAT IT WOULD BE DETRIMENTAL TO THE BEST INTEREST OF THE CHILD, DETRIMENTAL TO THE CHILD'S WELFARE FOR JOINT CUSTODY, JOINT PHYSICAL CUSTODY TO CONTINUE.
(THE DOCTOR) DESCRIBED THE SITUATION AS STAGE THREE OF PARENTAL ALIENATION.  HE DESCRIBED THAT (THE CHILD VICTIM OF PA) WAS NOT ALLOWED TO LOVE (THE TARGETED PARENT) IN THE (PERPETRATING PARENT’S) HOME.  (THE CHILD) WAS NOT ALLOWED TO RESPECT THE (TARGETED PARENT).  HE SAW (THE CHILD VICTIM OF PA) AT TIMES WHEN (THE CHILD) HAD COME FROM (THE PERPETRATING PARENT)'S CUSTODY AND TIMES WHEN (THE CHILD) CAME FROM (THE TARGETED PARENT)'S CUSTODY, AND HE FOUND A COMPLETELY DIFFERENT CHILD, A CHILD WHO WAS HEALTHY IN (THE TARGETED PARENT)'S CUSTODY.
HE FOUND NO EVIDENCE OF SUBSTANCE ABUSE, ALTHOUGH (THE PERPETRATING PARENT) REPEATED SUBSTANCE ABUSE OVER AND OVER AND OVER.
AND THERE WERE TWO STATEMENTS FROM (THE CHILD VICTIM OF PA).  ONE, EXHIBIT (X), IN WHICH (THE CHILD VICTIM OF PA) IS DESCRIBING SUBSTANCE ABUSE (OF THE TARGET PARENT) TAKING UP THE STATEMENTS OF THE (PERPETRATING PARENT).  DR. (ABC) TESTIFIED THAT THIS IS COMMON IN THIS TYPE OF A SITUATION BECAUSE (THE PERPETRATING PARENT)'S LOVE IS CONDITIONAL LOVE, AND THE CHILD QUICKLY LEARNS THAT (THE CHILD) MUST ADOPT THE ATTITUDES OF THE (PERPETRATING PARENT) IN ORDER TO BE IN A POSITION OF LOVE WITH THE (PERPETRATING PARENT).
(THE CHILD VICTIM) WANTS TO LOVE THE (PERPETRATING PARENT).  (THE CHILD) WANTS TO LOVE THE (TARGETED PARENT).  (THE CHILD) DOES LOVE BOTH PARENTS, AND THIS (PARENTAL ALIENATION) IS CHILD ABUSE, AS DR. (ABC) TESTIFIED, FOR (THE PERPETRATING PARENT) TO ORCHESTRATE A SITUATION WITH (THE CHILD VICTIM) WHERE (PERPETRATING PARENT) IS TRYING TO CAUSE (THE CHILD VICTIM) TO REJECT AND WITHDRAW FROM (THE CHILD’S) (TARGETED PARENT) 100 PERCENT.
BASED ON THIS TESTIMONY, WE REQUEST SOLE PHYSICAL AND SOLE LEGAL CUSTODY OF (THE CHILD VICTIM) TO THE (TARGETED PARENT), AND TO TAKE (THE PA PERPETRATING PARENT)'S VISITATION DOWN TO MINIMAL, AND HAVE (THE PERPETRATING PARENT) WORK WITH A THERAPIST, WHOEVER, OF (PERPETRATING PARENT’S) CHOICE, WHO WILL THEN WORK WITH DR. (ABC) AND WILL TRY TO TRACK, OR THEY WILL TRY TO TRACK PROGRESS THAT (THE PERPETRATING PARENT) IS MAKING THROUGH ACTIONS, NOT JUST WORDS, WHERE (THE PERPETRATING PARENT) WILL NO LONGER PUT (THE CHILD VICTIM) AT RISK.
THANK YOU.
Thomas M. Huguenor originally shared to Guys With Kids - Important

When I was successful in prosecuting a child custody parental alienation (PA) case, a couple of weeks ago, I was thankful because PA is child abuse that is rarely proven.  When I say "proven" I mean to the extent that the Court significantly reduces the parenting time for the PP (parenting who is perpetrating PA). In a PA case, which I handled, a year ago, the Court's expert witness found that the PP had committed only acts of "bad parenting" although it was established, through another independent psychologist, that this parent had committed 20 acts of PA; and that the victim child had completely withdrawn from the Targeted Parent. Many experts are reluctant to acknowledge that, or they simply cannot recognize when, significant acts of PA have been committed. Also, many Family Court judges have had little or no training, or work experience with PA.  So, frequently, even when the Court finds wrongful actions have been taken by a parent; there is no finding of PA and nothing other than a warning to the PP to stop this behavior. PA is not visible in the way that a physical beating would be.  It can't be diagnosed by a police officer coming to a home after a 911 call. Please see the referenced article by Dr. Major which explains why PA is so hard to prove and, when it is, the finding rarely results in change of custody. However, allow me to conclude which the following: PA can be established in court. PA can be stopped and even reversed through appropriate court orders. In the next post I will include my closing argument to the Court so that you may see what factors I stressed as significant and my requested child custody modification orders.

Thomas M. Huguenor originally shared to Guys With Kids - Important

http://www.breakthroughparenting.com/PAS.htm #childcustodyparentalalienation