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Abraham Lincoln was born on February 12, 1809. 



Most historians agree, he was one of our nation’s greatest presidents – not only for issuing the Emancipation Proclamation, but also for holding the union together during the civil war. He was able to help end slavery and unite our states by standing by the fundamental principal that everyone knows in their hearts – slavery is wrong.

Not surprisingly, Lincoln stood by firm principals before his presidency. I’ve always loved what he wrote in preparing to deliver a lecture to lawyers in 1850, as they show that Honest Abe was just that, and consistent. I think some of his words of wisdom are particularly relevant today, and especially in the context of family law litigation. In custody disputes, attorneys should consider themselves in the business of truth finding, not truth hiding. And, we should never “stir up litigation.”

Quoting Lincoln:


Discourage litigation. Persuade your neighbors to compromise whenever you can. Point out to them how the nominal winner is often a real loser — in fees, expenses, and waste of time. As a peacemaker the lawyer has a superior opportunity of being a good man. There will still be business enough.


Never stir up litigation. A worse man can scarcely be found than one who does this. Who can be more nearly a fiend than he who habitually overhauls the register of deeds in search of defects in titles, whereon to stir up strife, and put money in his pocket? A moral tone ought to be infused into the profession which should drive such men out of it.


There is a vague popular belief that lawyers are necessarily dishonest…. Let no young man choosing the law for a calling for a moment yield to the popular belief — resolve to be honest at all events; and if in your own judgment you cannot be an honest lawyer, resolve to be honest without being a lawyer. Choose some other occupation, rather than one in the choosing of which you do, in advance, consent to be a knave.



Abe’s wisdom stands the test of time. I’m one attorney who is resolved to accept his challenge. Happy birthday, Mr. President.


Submitted by Mike Haskell. Mike is a practicing family law attorney from Grand Rapids Michigan. He is a divorced father and shared parenting advocate. Posting of this article is not an endorsement for, or recommendation of, Haskell Law.


In his book Sacred Marriage, Gold Medallion-winning author Dr. Gary Thomas writes,



“Abraham Lincoln was an unusual man of principle simply in the way he approached courtship. He agreed to marry a woman who he hadn't seen in 3 years. When he finally saw his prospective bride, his heart sunk. ‘She did not look as my imagination had pictured her,’ he wrote. ‘I could not for my life avoid thinking of my mother. The lack of teeth and the treelike assessment of her age - nothing could have commenced at the size of infancy, and reached her present bulk in less than 35 or 40 years!’


Because Lincoln was a man of his word - although not pleased with this woman - he was determined to marry her. He got down on one knee and... she rejected him. Lincoln made an absolute fool of himself.


Mary Todd Lincoln was a woman of intense impulse and she had a tremendous temper. Lincoln suffered many indignities at the hand of his wife. From her publicly throwing coffee in his face, to chasing him with a knife, to her crazy spending binges of buying hundreds of pairs of gloves at a time, she was responsible for their own marital uncivil war.


When the Lincolns lost their son Willie - Mary's favorite son - her hysterics were difficult to control. It was after losing his son and watching his wife fall apart, Lincoln wrote the speech that would mark him for posterity, The Gettysburg Address.


Lincoln shone brightest when his personal life was darkest. It's important to see that not only did Lincoln's difficult marriage not deter him from achieving greatness, one might argue that it acutely helped prepare him for greatness. Lincoln's character was tested and refined on a daily basis so that when the true test came, he was able to stand strong.”


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